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A KBC contestant made a 'joke' about changing his wife's face by plastic surgery with his prize money just shows how regressive we can be.
A KBC contestant made a ‘joke’ about changing his wife’s face by plastic surgery with his prize money shows just how regressive we can be.
Koshlendra Singh Tomar, a KBC contestant and Gram Panchayat Secretary, recently came into the limelight for a slightly different reason. Tomar made a so-called ‘joke’ about changing his wife’s face through plastic surgery with his prize money.
This seemingly ‘harmless’ joke not only brought out an insensitive and shallow side but also surprised Amitabh Bachchan. Big B had to rightfully ‘school’ Tomar for his thoughts. He also told Tomar’s wife not to listen to him in this regard.
What struck me was why would someone want to change their partner in the first place? Marriage is not for the convenience of one gender and no one is a puppet in anyone’s hand. Hence, getting bored in a marriage simply because a couple has stayed together for a long time is unfathomable.
In a marriage, two people evolve together and share a life, so why make them lose touch with their own identity? Cracking such a sick joke on national television doesn’t just bring out a negative side, it also makes me wonder how his wife took this. How would he have taken it had she said the same about him?
I wonder why is it so easy for a husband to say such things about his wife. Be it Riteish Deshmukh’s (an otherwise devoted husband) hurt ego on being called Genelia’s husband (what’s wrong in being called that!) Or Tomar’s ‘idea’ to change his wife’s face via plastic surgery (as if it is magic switch!). Are they uncomfortable with it? Do they express themselves without thinking? Or do they take their spouse for granted?
I am no preacher of love or a marriage counsellor, but I believe everyone deserves respect. No one has the right to ‘joke’ about anyone’s looks! That is part of the other person’s identity.
“Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds, or bends with the remover to remove: O no! It is an ever fixed mark that looks on tempests and is never shaken; it is the star to every wandering bark whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken. Love’s not Time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks within his bending sickle’s compass come: Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks, but bears it out, even to the edge of doom.” – William Shakespeare.
Rosy lips, dimple chin, and an hour glass figure will change with time and we must have the sense to accept reality. We need to understand people cannot be changed with plastic surgery or Botox!
Mr. Tomar won a meagre amount in KBC and other than plastic surgery, here are some healthier options he could have opted for:
Some food for thought, perhaps!
Picture credits: Stills from KBC 12
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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