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Our society teaches a girl from her birth that one day she has to leave her parents' house and go with her husband to his house.
Our society teaches a girl from her birth that one day she has to leave her parents’ house and go with her husband to his house.
One more decision which showed this society that you can control women the way you want.
We women have no choice to do things in the way we wanted to do. We have to give proof of everything at every single point of time.
Recently, the Gauhati High Court has granted divorce to a man in Assam after observing that a woman’s refusal to wear the ritualistic sakha and sindoor signified her unwillingness to accept her marriage. (A sakha is a bangle made of conch shell; sindoor is vermilion.)
It was also stated in the man’s divorce petition that the woman tried to influence him to live separately from her in laws in a nuclear family.
If a woman is supposed to wear all this to give proof of her willingness to society and to her husband that she has accepted their marriage, then shouldn’t the man also wear something to show his willingness to their marriage? What proof does a man wear to show society that he is married?
So it seems as though a man is free to do whatever he wishes and no court will order him about what he can or cannot do in his marriage? Also, if a woman does not eat to stay with her in-laws, there must be a reason.
Every coin has two sides. Our society teaches a girl from her birth that one day she has to leave her parents’ house and go with her husband to his house. On the other hand a man is not supposed to leave his parents if her wife wishes or she has some issues with her in laws. To separate a woman from her parents is ritual but to separate a man from his parents is opposed to law. WHY?
Will this rule change if a girl is the only child of her parents and wishes to take care of them for their life time, and to be with them? Will her husband leave his parents and shift with her to take care of her parents?
Why is only a woman supposed to do all the sacrifices, leave her house, parents, childhood relationships, everything – to be with her husband and take care of his parents? When in return she gets almost nothing but a life full of responsibilities?
If her husband allows her to do something, then it is considered as her good fortune. Who gave her husband the right to ‘allow’ her to do things or to ‘refuse’ her? Does marriage gives a woman such rights?
Why is a man privileged in marriage and a woman only with responsibilities?
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People say that women are the greatest enemies of women. I vehemently disagree. It is the patriarchal mindset that makes women believe in the wrong ideology.
The entire world celebrates International Women’s Day on March 8, 2024. It should be a joyful day, but unfortunately, not all women are entitled to this privilege, as violence against women is at its peak. The experience of oppression pushes many women to choose freedom. As far as patriotism is concerned, feminism is not a cup of tea in this society.
What happens when a woman decides to stand up for herself? Does this world easily accept the decisions of women in this society? What inspires them to be free of the clutches of the oppression that women have faced for ages? Most of the time, women do not get the chance to decide for themselves. Their lives are always at the mercy of someone, which can be their parents, siblings, husband, or children.
In some cases, women do not feel the need to make any decisions. They are taught to obey the patriarchal system, which makes them believe that they are right. In my family, I was never taught to make decisions on my own. It was always my parents who bought dresses and all that I needed.
14 years after her last feature film Dhobi Ghat, storyteller extraordinaire comes up with her new film, Laapataa Ladies, a must watch.
*Some spoilers alert*
Every religion around the world dictates terms to women. The onus is always on women to be ‘modest’ and cover their faces and bodies so men can’t be “tempted”, rather than on men to keep their eyes where they belong and behave like civilized beings. So much so that even rape has been excused on the grounds of women eating chowmein or ‘men will be men’. I think the best Hindi movie retort to this unwanted advice on ‘akeli ladki khuli tijori ki tarah hoti hai’ (an alone woman is like an open jewellery box) came from Geet in Jab We Met – Kya aap gyan dene ke paise lete hain kyonki chillar nahin hain mere paas.
The premise of Laapataa Ladies is beautifully simple – two brides clad in the ghunghat that covers their identity get mixed up on a train. Within this Russian Doll, you get a comedy of errors, a story of getting lost, a commentary on patriarchy’s attitude towards women, a mystery, and a tale of finding oneself, all in one. Done with a mostly light touch that has you laughing and nodding along.
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