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Women in power or at higher places are often judged based on their appearance or character. Isn't it time we stopped this and respected them, instead?
Women in power or at higher places are often judged based on their appearance or character. Isn’t it time we stopped this and respected them, instead?
Is there a sure shot way to nullify a woman’s success, bring her down the pedestal she painstakingly has reached, ridicule her success and crush her self-confidence? Yes, there is! You either cast her as a sex symbol or you question her morals. Alternately you could caste aspersions of her method of working or add some comments about her ‘assets.’
The sad but true reality is that these things happen at workplaces and even at homes. ‘Oh Ms. X! The boss favours her since she wears such short clothes,’ or ‘Oh! She flirts with all her colleagues, no wonder she is Ms. popular.’ Or even, ‘Beauty with brains? Oh year! She has both and knows how to use it to her advantage.’
Such remarks are often heard in office corridors or at water coolers. It is unfortunate that such remarks are very often made by female colleagues.
Many of the less endowed and less brilliant peers indulge in such loose talk, that is aimed mainly at hurting the recipient’s morale. With the exception of models and movie stars, not too many woman like to flaunt their femininity or use it to further their careers. Most of them might appreciate being called/considered a ‘beauty’ but wouldn’t like to be told that she used it to reach her goals.
I remember reading a novel a long time ago. It was written by a ‘famous’ writer whose main claim to fame was sleazy and undisguised voyeurism. His books were known for the unabashed description of the female form and the physical intimacy between the protagonists.
He wrote about the physical relationship between a woman and her yoga teacher. And I remember thinking as to how explicitly the woman (whose identity was no secret) was portrayed. She did have her share of controversies, yes. But was undoubtedly one of the finest stateswomen in history.
What achievements did this novelist have that he could reduce a dignified and respected woman to nothing but a sex symbol brushing aside everything else?
In another novel, he portrays a series of sexual encounters of a man who ultimately kills himself after he is diagnosed with AIDS. What was he trying to portray here? That men only live for physical gratification and will go to any length to achieve it? Or was he trying admire the way the protagonist cheated on his wife and abandoned his family just to have a string of affairs?
Throughout history, women have been strangled and silenced by a number of ways. With the advent of media and the internet, this process has become even easier- giving people newer ways to harass women.
Not just the common women, even the famous personalities are not spared. A number of them have their pictures morphed with ‘juicy’ stories around them. Add to this the ‘commodification’ of women in the movies with their item numbers and what not.
It is the common woman on the streets who has to bear the brunt. Not only the common people but even the law-makers question her values when she complains about sexual harassment. As long as women continue to be judged on the basis of their looks, we will remain a society with severe limitations. Woman should join hands to fight this injustice in branding of other woman.
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Neena was the sole caregiver of Amma and though one would think that Amma was dependent on her, Neena felt otherwise.
Neena inhaled the aroma that emanated from the pan and took a deep breath. The aroma of cumin interspersed with butter transported her back to the modest kitchen in her native village. She could picture her father standing in the kitchen wearing his white crisp kurta as he made delectable concoctions for his only daughter.
Neena grew up in a home where both her parents worked together in tandem to keep the house up and running. She had a blissful childhood in her modest two-room house. The house was small but every nook and cranny gave her memories of a lifetime. Neena’s young heart imagined that her life would follow the same cheerful course. But how wrong she was!
When she was sixteen, the catastrophic clutches of destiny snatched away her parents. They passed away in a road accident and Neena was devastated. Relatives thronged her now gloomy house and soon it was decided that she should be married off.
Women today don’t want to be in a partnership that complicates their lives further. They need an equal partner with whom they can figure out life as a team, playing by each other’s strengths.
We all are familiar with that one annoying aunty who is more interested in our marital status than in the dessert counter at a wedding. But these aunties have somehow become obsolete now. Now they are replaced by men we have in our lives. Friends, family, and even work colleagues. It’s the men who are worried about why we are not saying yes to one among their clans. What is wrong with us? Aren’t we scared of dying alone? Like them?
A recent interaction with a guy friend of mine turned sour when he lectured me about how I would regret not getting married at the right time. He lectured that every event in our lives needs to be completed within a certain timeframe set by society else we are doomed. I wasn’t angry. I was just disappointed to realize that annoying aunties are rapidly doubling in our society. And they don’t just appear at weddings or family functions anymore. They are everywhere. They are the real pandemic.
Let’s examine this a little closer.
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