Over the years, your support has made Women’s Web the leading resource for women in India. Now, it is our turn to ask, how can we make this even more useful for you? Please take our short 5 minute questionnaire – your feedback is important to us!
Women who are repeatedly harassed by men start thinking that maybe something is wrong with them. To those women, I say: it is not your fault!
Dear young women,
It is not your fault if a creepy old man from your Facebook list starts pinging you after seeing your pics with your friends (male or female). He is the creep, not you. Remove him and warn those who know him. Even if it is a relative.
It’s not your fault if the ‘driver on-call’ you hired starts chatting excessively on your car rides because he saw your pics on facebook and thinks you are a “certain” kind of girl. Just change the driver and move on.
It is not your fault if a former colleague, now married with a kid, sees your picture with another male colleague and thinks you are ‘easy game’ and asks you out to dinner. Ask him, “will your wife be joining us”? It’s that person’s own dirty brain for thinking something shady is going on with you and the guy whose picture is up on Facebook. Remove him from your FB friends’ list, and tell your friends about it.
It’s not your fault if some old creepy married boss asked you to wear a short skirt during your internship at an ad agency. Be aware and report him. It’s a good thing that millennials are so much more aware these days and the creep would soon find himself in a POSH committee hearing.
It’s not your fault if a creepy old married dude reads between the lines (of your copy, imagining it is for him!) every time you submit your copy for approval at your workplace.
It is not your fault if a former school mate (male) sends you a perverted joke full of sexual innuendos. Block him and move on. Tell your friends about it, so that they don’t fall prey.
If it’s not your fault, then why is it happening? The same man who acts a certain way toward his wife at home is out in the workplace looking for ‘fresh meat’ to pass his time.
Who is going to tell that man that no one is interested in his creepy overtures and he is going to face sexual harassment charges soon if he carries on that way? It will have to be you! What if that man is your boss or supervisor? How would you handle it?
Image source: shutterstock
Women's Web is an open platform that publishes a diversity of views. Individual posts do not necessarily represent the platform's views and opinions at all times. If you have a complementary or differing point of view, sign up and start sharing your views too!
Editor, Bibliophile, Blogger, Writer, Poet. I find reading helps me make sense of the world and I find writing therapeutic. read more...
Women's Web is an open platform that publishes a diversity of views, individual posts do not necessarily represent the platform's views and opinions at all times.
Stay updated with our Weekly Newsletter or Daily Summary - or both!
He said that he needed sometime to himself. I waited for him as any other woman would have done, and I gave him his space, I didn't want to be the clingy one.
Trigger Warning: This deals with mental trauma and depression, and may be triggering for survivors.
I am someone who believes in honesty and trust, I trust people easily and I think most of the times this habit of mine turns into bane.
This is a story of how a matrimonial website service turned into a nightmare for me, already traumatized by the two relationships I’ve had. It’s a story for every woman who lives her life on the principles of honesty and trust.
And when she enters the bedroom, she sees her husband's towel lying on the bed, his underwear thrown about in their bathroom. She rolls her eyes, sighs and picks it up to put in the laundry bag.
Vasudha, age 28 – is an excellent dancer, writer, podcaster and a mandala artist. She is talented young woman, a go getter and wouldn’t bat an eyelid if she had to try anything new. She would go head on with it. Everyone knew Vasudha as this cheerful and pretty young lady.
Except when marriage changed everything she knew. Since she was always outdoors, whether for office or for travelling for her dance shows, Vasudha didn’t know how to cook well.
Going by her in-laws definition of cooking – she had to know how to cook any dishes they mentioned. Till then Vasudha didn’t know that learning to cook was similar to getting an educational qualification. As soon as she entered the household after her engagement, nobody was interested what she excelled at, everybody wanted to know – what dishes she knew how to cook.