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The story of an ordinary Indian housewife, whose wishes are considered 'naturally' secondary to that of her husband, looking from afar at a happy, 'free' woman.
The story of an ordinary Indian housewife, whose wishes are considered ‘naturally’ secondary to that of her husband, looking from afar at a happy, ‘free’ woman.
She sat nodding and smiling,
Trying to be happy, busy following.
Successfully deceiving herself and everyone,
The perfect sycophant that she had become.
Finding peace in shade of a man,
For her, who was like a banyan tree.
She was busy in pleasing and nurturing the tree,
For it provided her with shade and societal glee.
So, what if her own paths seemed blurred?
In dignity struggle she was submerged.
She had become immune to pain,
In a life of inertia and fictional gain.
She convinced herself yet once again,
Being a sycophant has its own gains.
Elated by a false sense of security,
She wondered if she was someone’s property?
She then looked at the girl next door,
Wondered how she was so happy?
Creating new paths, celebrating success,
Rejoicing in her freedom, finding herself!
Was it a magic pill she had?
Which in her life she lacked?
One was trained to only clean and cook,
Other was empowered with knowledge and books.
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Dr. Farah Naqvi is an academician, corporate trainer and HRD consultant associated with many MNCs and institutions in the field of academics, behavioural training, consulting and research. She has worked with premier institutes read more...
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My belly is living proof
of the life I have grown, held, and birthed
a ‘permanently pregnant’ swell
stretch marks and a caesarian scar
that still itch
an experience I wouldn’t trade in
except for what I was told by the father of my child.
It is easy to give in to patriarchal expectations from a married woman and lose your self in a marriage, but the path to happiness is in keeping your independence.
Marriage is often described as the joining of two individuals’ bodies, minds, and souls. Upon getting married, you are expected to share everything with your partner, including time, money, and all other aspects of life. Your life should revolve around your spouse from beginning to end.
But is it necessary to spend every waking moment with the spouse? Are you not supposed to have a life apart from your spouse? And do these rules apply only to women or men as well?
Although both men and women may face this situation, women are generally expected to give up everything once they get married. Despite progress in several areas, expecting women to abandon their interests, passions, and friendships to align their lives with those of their spouses is still considered the norm.
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