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Hair removal for women is considered one of the ‘must do’ things to look beautiful. But is there another side to the story.
In one of my recent visits to parlour for a rejuvenating head massage, a lady from the staff came to me, suggesting me to get my eyebrows done. She seemed an unfamiliar face, who wasn’t aware of my requirements.
I told her that I am happy the way it is and have indeed never got it done. But her concerns were unyielding. She mellowed down her proposal and came with a scissor suggesting that at least some trimming is required. Although the lady had to finally give up before my obstinacy, it nevertheless signifies the importance of hair removal in the lives of women.
You can see women of all age groups throng the parlours and salons for various ways of hair removal, on literally every part of body. Before my readers point their fingers towards me, I would agree that at some stage of my life I was also guilty of adhering to a particular socially acceptable look, which I rarely pursued because of lack of motivation, lack of interest and may be owing to my laziness for beauty regimes.
From the time a girl enter a school; she gets obsessed with visits to beauty salons to look attractive and appealing. Constantly fed with the notion that body hair is unfeminine and bad, all girls embark the journey to edit themselves from a very young age. Visit to parlours are not mere occasions but an integral part of our routine, mostly aimed at getting rid of hair from our bodies.
In case you feel your frequent visits are your own decision, you need to pause and think. We are being governed by an unconscious social control that wants women to be presented in a certain pre-determined manner. This is another aspect of the same gendered social control that requires men to have moustaches or keep body hair, as a proof of their masculinity. Although in big cities the trend for men might be changing, but the situation remains the same for women. Appearances and choices of women are still controlled by social factors.
On asking them, many female friends said hair removal is more of a routine, while others confirmed that they do it for their partners. If hair removal was to the actual reason of marital bliss, them probably the world would have been a different place.
The desire to fulfil one partner’s desire might be understandable, but it should apply to both partners and not women alone. The expectations of choice and concern on hygiene between partners should apply to both. But I doubt if the majority of Indian women have the liberty to comment on the grooming skills of their men. Just need to look around to know the answer. The utter social confidence of being masculine and supreme have always exempted men from any judgement or expectation, giving them the liberty to be themselves.
With the opening up of beauty salons in every nook and corner, hair removal for women has become an ingrained habit. It has come to identify less with hygiene and more with socially constructed idea of sexiness that is ultimately driven by consumerism and marketing. Fascinated by the unconscious assimilation of the images from TV, films and magazines, little do we realize that we are inflicting pain upon our bodies. The glamour industry and media has affected tremendously how we see ourselves, depriving women of control over their own bodies.
I have always found waxing and hair removal immensely painful – and yet it has become a habit. Women have been long criticized for a lack of sisterhood, but their solidarity in pushing each other to parlours and undergoing beauty treatment is commendable. Women love to flaunt their clean, shining and soft hairless hands and legs making facial and body hair societal taboo.
Going back in history, hair removal for women has substantial evidences. Practised in ancient Egypt, Mesopotamia and Rome, the act was majorly confined to women. In the modern times, women’s body hair was considered ‘unsightly’ and ‘objectionable’ was strengthened with the invention of safety razor by Gillette around 1915. The ‘Anti-Underarm’ marketing campaign by Gillette coupled with the rising hemlines as an impact of the fashion industry, made hair removal for women a common practice.
Sometime later, the coming of Playboy magazine drastically changed the way women were perceived. Images of sexy, lingerie-draped clean-shaven women became benchmarks for the ideal feminine beauty, which was further affirmed by the porn industry. Markets were soon and till today are flooded with numerous alternatives for hair removal for women, which took away the autonomy of woman over their own bodies. From facial hair, to arms, underarm, legs and to pubic area, women since then are at a constant war against body hair.
In an attempt to understand then behaviour behind grooming of pubic hair by women, some 3,300 American women were surveyed by JAMA Dermatology. Nearly 84% respondents agreed to pubic hair removal, citing reasons of hygiene and partner preference. One of the lead authors of the study and Assistant Professor at University of California, M.D. Rowen challenged the myth of that pubic hair is unhygienic. Both he and Dr Vanessa Mackay, a member of the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, claim that pubic hair has its own function and is vital for preventing pathogens entering the vagina. Dr. Macay in an interview here goes further to explain, “Pubic hair offers a natural barrier to keep things clean, to decrease contact with viruses and bacteria, and to protect the tender skin of the area,” She adds that “tiny ‘wounds’ left by shaving, along with the warm and moist genital area, created a ‘happy culture medium’ for bacteria to grow in. Pubic hair instead helps to control the moisture of the area which decreases the chances of yeast infections.”
I do not have a dislike for physical grooming, but I have my reservations about women being brainwashed into altering their bodies to fit into the socially constructed and media depicted standards of beauty. I would personally refrain from punishing my body by pouring on it hot wax, especially in the pursuit of to becoming more ‘soft, supple and desirable’. I would agree that beautifying oneself does contribute to boosting the self-confidence, but retaining the uniqueness of identity is equally important.
Being feminine doesn’t mean becoming a Barbie doll by undergoing explicit alterations and damaging your natural self. It might be flattering for some to win attention by confirming to socially accepted standards of beauty, but is it worth it to undergo avoidable pain and uneasiness? Beauty and sexiness goes beyond looks. It can also be acquired by healthy habits and working towards a disease free body. I would personally prefer to get my facial glow from my books, conversations and exposure to knowledge, rather than bleaching my face. I had read somewhere, “Feminine is an art and empowerment is a trait that can’t be acquired in a beauty salon.”
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This is an excellent post! I so agree with you! Historically speaking, women have tried to fit in to popular notions of beauty, out of subservience to external authority and control. Both patriarchy and capitalism have facilitated the notion that women must present themselves a certain way -like an “offering” to the superior male gaze!! This is really ridiculous, because as you rightly point out, women on the other hand have, for the longest time accepted the male form (its beauty or lack of it!) with little or no demands. Our great grandmothers were busy lightening/softening their skin, oiling their hair and wearing flowers to smell pleasant while I’m sure our great grandfathers looked and felt weather beaten and smelled like the fields and all the sweat it took to keep them working on them!! I do agree we must be healthy and hygienic for personal well being and this goes for men too. But hurting ourselves by chasing the anti-aging, ever beautiful mirage is at tangent with living naturally and organically. I feel particularly sorry for all those guys nowadays who are making the same blunder we women did so very long ago and have started waxing their chests and legs under pressure from so called fashion enthusiasts and capitalists alike- to look fair and handsome!!
Hi Sonia, I am glad you agree to my point of view. You rightly said we have been trying to fit within a socially structured image. Best part is that girls are willing to think and talk about these issues. I donot expect people to change in a minute but I do believe that every healthy conversation is a stepping stone towards real freedom to women.
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