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Talking about periods to a son is just as important as talking to a daughter. Sons should know too, so that they can empathize with the women in their lives!
“Mom, kuch daag ache hote hain!” This is what my 11 year old son sheepishly tells me every time I give a disgruntled look at his stained clothes with all sorts of colors and patterns of dirt and mud and chocolate on them. And all this is done without trying too hard.
He is packed off to school and after-school activities in prim and proper clothes but once he returns, everything about him (including his clothes) reminds me of a Dog’s Day Out, happily soaking in the sun, rain and mud with all the love and no stress in this world! The tag-line of the ad my son refers to has clearly made its impact on my son and he sincerely believes that the detergent powder has some magic component that will make all the stains vanish into thin air and the clothes will be as sparkling as ever!
Every time I listen to this ad, I am always reminded of the stains that have come on my clothes during the menstrual cycle and how stressed I used to be during my teens! Especially a couple of years after the onset of periods when I was constantly checking behind my back, and getting back home spotless was the achievement of the day.
This phobia continued for a few more years and then with all the advancements and enhancements made in sanitary supplies, all my worries and fear of stains were whisked away! The fear of the ‘daag’ was getting lesser by the day and the confidence and ability to deal with menstrual issues was getting better.
I no longer bothered much about what to do, what not to do, whether to wear white or not and which position to sleep in. And thankfully, my parents were extremely liberal, and my sister and I never had to conform to any norms about not visiting the temple during ‘those days’ of the month, or eating only vegetarian food, or not entering the kitchen and so on. We were happy, free souls and only fretted at times, when we had to go on family vacations and we were sure we would be hit by storm. Apart from that, nothing else affected us and our temperament. Yes, I did go through the regular hormonal imbalance issues that differs for every woman, but the onset of periods every month was a constant reminder to me that ‘Aal is well’
Since the last couple of years, ever since my son turned 9, I have been very keen to explain to him in detail about the entire menstruation process and have all his questions answered so that he is well oriented before all the ads and internet information clutter his mind with all sorts of messaging. But I procrastinated and thought I will do it when the time is ‘right’, not knowing when will be the right time.
Last year, he saw a sanitary napkin lying abandoned in the washroom and came out frantically asking me, “Mom, why do you wear diapers?” And “I have seen you buying those diapers every month at a chemist’s shop!” I was so embarrassed and tried to recover from it, helplessly seeking the right choice of words to explain this all. But, very foolishly, I simply turned around and told him, “They are not diapers, they are something else that only women use and will explain it to you once your exams get over.” He gave me one wide look and then said, “Whatever…!” with the attitude of a superstar.
The exams got over, my son and I were celebrating our happiness and freedom from exams and projects and I had happily forgotten about educating him about this topic. Yes, I was embarrassed! I was very careful not to keep the sanitary napkins loitering around the washrooms.
But, sometime ago, during one of my painful and heavy flushes at night, the stains had arrived on my pyjamas and I hadn’t noticed it all. I was up and running in the kitchen, gearing up for some tea time with my boys and then my son shrieked loudly, “Mom, there’s blood on your pyjamas!”
Those words coming from his mouth felt like he had seen a ghost in broad daylight and was about to pass out. I completely froze for few seconds, then quickly turned around to double check, gained my composure and went up to him and very sheepishly said, “Kuch daag ache hote hain!” He obviously was still reeling under the stain attack and didn’t care much for the entertainment at that point of time.
Later, I made him sit on my lap and explained everything to him in great detail, struggling for the right aids and words at times to ensure he is well educated on this topic and free to come back and discuss it any as many times with me, who is the best SME (Subject Matter Expert) on this topic for him! There is no taboo on this subject and he is equipped to empathize with me on a topic that is so special to me. And there’s more to come as I get older and ready to embrace men-o-pause.
I am not very sure whether he has completely understood this, but he sure knows that it’s a good thing that his mom too wears diapers (of a kind) and he also knows that all that she needs during those ‘days’ of the month is a hot cuppa tea, chocolates and large doses of tender loving care. Period!
Published here earlier.
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I am Rachana Gupta, a happy and highly spirited woman, who loves being the sunshine in the life of my dearest 10 year old son and my loving husband, Vishal who was my schoolmate and read more...
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Chetan Bhagat had no business slut shaming Uorfi Javed or any other woman. If he wants to 'guide' young men in the 'right direction' then he should take accountability for his words.
Chetan Bhagat, one of India’s bestselling authors, thought it was an ingenious idea to slut-shame Uorfi Javed, an Indian actress and influencer, at the Sahitya Aaj Tak literature festival.
“Phone has been a great distraction for the youth, especially the boys, spending hours just watching Instagram Reels. Everyone knows who Uorfi Javed is. What will you do with her photos? Is it coming in your exams or you will go for a job interview and tell the interviewer that you know all her outfits? On one side, there is a youth who is protecting our nation at Kargil and on another side, we have another youth who is seeing Uorfi Javed’s photos hiding in their blankets.”
Uorfi Javed responded with a video on her Instagram stories calling out Bhagat’s bluff. She shared the screenshots of his previous chat conversations with Ira Trivedi, author and yoga instructor, which came to light during the #MeToo movement.
While boys are taught to naturally own the space they enter, girls are taught to give up, to accommodate, to adjust since "it is their primary responsibility to keep families and relations together."
Yesterday, I was watching these 4 young girls around 16 – 17 years old play badminton. They were having fun, goofing around with all 4 of them equally involved in the game.
In some time two of their male friends joined them, and as part of round robin, the 2 boys replaced two of the girls. All good.
As the play continued, I started noticing a change in the way the game was being played. The shuttle was played most of the times between the two boys and there was a sense of competition and aggression brought in. The other 2 girls playing soon starting losing interest in the game as they hardly got any game time. Even if the shuttle came towards them, the boy in their team would move and play that shot. They soon moved to the sidelines as the boys continued to play.
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