Most suicides can be prevented by learning the art of dealing with rejection, especially among the young, impressionable age group.
The suicide rate in India has been increasing. Almost every year we see exams, depression, love failure related suicides.
Recently television actress Pratyusha Banerjee known for her acting and TV serial Balika Vadhu’s beloved Anandi committed suicide. We still do not know if it is a suicide or a murder but it is hard to believe that a good actor at the age of 24 is no more. Jiah Khan’s suicide was yet another disturbing news.
A person’s suicide often takes the people it leaves behind by surprise and shock. In general, people try to kill themselves for few reasons such as they are depressed, they are crying out for help and do not know how to get it, they do not know whom to ask for help, they have made a mistake, or guilty about something.
The wounds suicide leaves in the lives of those left behind by it are often deep and long lasting.
Most of our failures are nothing more than a form of rejection and knowing how to deal with rejection will help to lessen pain and come back to a normal state.
Love failure can be seen as a form of rejection. I have seen many of my friends falling into this trap. Getting attracted to the opposite gender is not love but teenagers don’t understand this.
When you realize that you are being rejected, it is too late. You don’t feel like talking to your friends. You start hating everything. You fail to understand that you had loved or desired someone who was not as passionate about you as you were about them.
The common symptoms are negative thoughts, inability to get good sleep, not being able to work, and not being able to concentrate on studies, or for that matter disliking everything that you do. I have seen many of my friends going through this so I can say that it is really disturbing and painful to see someone suffer from depression which is a mental condition. The intensity of all these will gradually fade with time but family and friends have a major role to help the person overcome.
If you are going through this then try telling yourself that all this is just temporary and you deserve a better life partner.
Engage yourself in physical activities like gym, sports or dance.
Party hard with your friends but that does not mean you need to take help of alcohol.
The best way is to avoid blaming yourself or others for the wrong things happening in your life.
Try to focus on the good and do not analyse your past.
Learn a new skill or something that is challenging.
Travel to places if possible and meet new people.
Give yourself enough time and don’t start a new relationship when you still have many unforgotten memories and negative feelings ruling your mind.
If you or anyone you know is feeling suicidal, here are some of the helplines available in India. Please call.
Aasra, Mumbai: 022-27546669
Sneha, Chennai: 044-2464 0050
Lifeline, Kolkata: 033-2474 4704
Sahai, Bangalore: 080 – 25497777
Published earlier here.
Image source: sad girl black and white portrait by Shutterstock.
A software engineer by profession, blogger by passion. read more...
Women's Web is an open platform that publishes a diversity of views, indivisual posts do not necessarily represent the platofrom's views and opinions at all times.
Stay updated with our Weekly Newsletter or Daily Summary - or both!
Falling in love, marriage, a hidden secret, divorce. Despite all this, Vinita noticed her life was full of love that came in various unexpected shades!
“Aap jinke kareeb hotey hain, woh badey kush naseeb hotey hain…”
Just as Vinita was settling down into the cab seat, the driver put on music and the song started to play. It took her back immediately to that evening ten years ago, when Gautam had sung that very same song to her on the first evening they had met. She could remember every single detail of that evening so very clearly.
Neena Gupta shares her terrifying childhood experiences of being molested - like most assault survivors who often go to great measures to minimise these incidents by remaining silent, she was scared to tell her parents.
Neena Gupta shares her terrifying childhood experiences of being molested – like most assault survivors who often go to great measures to minimise these incidents by remaining silent, she was scared to tell her parents.
Trigger warning: This deals with child sexual abuse and may be triggering for survivors.
Suicide rates by women in India are exceptionally high by global standards. Among these, Indian housewives is a very large percentage. Let's get to the bottom of this.
Suicide rates by women in India are exceptionally high by global standards. Among these, Indian housewives is a very large percentage. Let’s get to the bottom of this.
“Smita (assumed name) heard voices and saw hallucinations. Her family had her institutionalised. One day they were informed of her death by suicide. Nobody knows her complete story.”
Suicide. The mere mention of the word just stops your heart for a second, doesn't it? Here are a few reasons why your teen might be suicidal and how to help them out of it.
Suicide. The mere mention of the word just stops your heart for a second, doesn’t it? Here are a few reasons why your teen might be suicidal and how to help them out of it.
“Place your hand over your heart, can you feel it? That is called purpose. You’re alive for a reason so don’t ever give up.” – Unknown