Are You Growing In Love Or Out Of It?

Posted: February 9, 2015

As the world celebrates the day of Love, here is a chance to reflect on our relationship. In the ever increasing pace of life – are we growing ‘in’ love or ‘out’ of it?

They were in love – the so called truly, madly and deeply love. They held each other’s hands firmly and  started on their life journey of togetherness.

Your dreams are mine and mine yours or now it’s just ours” – they vowed to one another. Everything seemed just so very perfect. They were in sync, in harmony and in peace. Now if you are expecting a twist to the script, like an entry of a villain – there isn’t one. So no blaming the parents, society or a possible third person.

“Less baggage more comfort” – but for all practical purposes, the baggage gets more for most of us in due course of time.

As they settled in, they started accumulating – networks and networths. “Less baggage more comfort” – but for all practical purposes, the baggage gets more for most of us in due course of time. The travel isn’t always plain meadows but you also tend to get the unexpected rough terrains. Well, they decided to divide and conquer. One took the heavier baggage and slowed down the pace (let’s call this better half “S”and the faster one “F” for ease of reference).

S let F travel at a much higher pace and explore more. They were still happy with what they conquered cumulatively. The difference in pace brought a slight distance between them but still they were at a distance where they could call each other and make sure they knew how each one was doing. As time passed, F reached greater heights – the world view, altitude and experience was totally different at that level. F started telling S about the valley and the flowers that F could see, but S, who was much below still coping with the weight, didn’t quite relate to what F said.

Was our love not real? Were we not meant for a lifetime – “S “doesn’t seem to be the same person anymore.”  F became restless, and so did S.

It’s true they didn’t start as S and F but along their journey one became S and the other F. This was a consensual decision but hardly did they realize what the decision would do to them. Should S not have agreed to slow down?

…whatever person we become in this due course – is it the better version of us ? Would these versions still relate to each other?

Well, there are many questions that we could discuss and debate forever. What needs to be considered in a long term Soul Relationship is –

What do we make of  one another in the due course of the life journey that we wholeheartedly plan to travel together? And whatever person we become in this due course – is it the better version of us ? Would these versions still relate to each other?

Love should let both the individuals grow and if the growth is along the same direction – the travel is fun, even if it means covering rough terrain together.

First published at the author’s blog

Woman alone image via Shutterstock

Sophia is the founder of Soul Cafe, a mom, a travel and life enthusiast. She

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