Roopa Swaminathan - The Messy Optimist

Hi...I'm Roopa. I'm also a messy optimist! I'm an academic-cum-artist. I'm a writer, filmmaker and professor of creative writing. Academically, I've a Double Masters and a Phd and artistically I've written and directed my own film for NFDC, published two non-fiction books from Penguin. one of which (Star Dust) won the National Award for Best Book on Cinema in 2004. These days...I'm still writing, working on my own lifestyle website (please check it out - www.themessyoptimist.com), drinking hot chai and grappling with grief. Please feel free to drop me a line anytime at [email protected]

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Tales From A Marriage: I Love You But I Don’t Want To Live A Life Just Like Yours!

Nisha looked up with a start. It was the lady in question. With a huge smile on her face, Nisha got up and hugged Anu. "You look lovely as always, you little monster!" Nisha complimented.

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Tales From A Marriage 3: Kyonki Saas Bhi Kabhi Bahu Thi… ‘Coz The MIL Was Once A DIL

Nisha and her MIL met up once a month to catch up - woman to woman. Neither of them was very chatty with each other although both were known to talk their ear off with others.

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Tales From A Marriage: Let’s Look At This Invisible Toxic Masculinity?

How on earth was her male chauvinist of a husband looking as peaceful and placid as the Queen of f...ing England? "You're OK with this? Your sister marrying a guy who doesn't want to work?" Nisha asked Rahul shrilly.

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Ask Yourself These Really Tough Questions Before You Decide To Start Travelling Solo!

How do you do it, Roopa? Aren’t you scared to travel alone as a woman? Is it safe? Don’t you feel alone? And lonely?

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Why Rajkummar Rao Marrying Patralekha Made Me Sigh In Relief

If a couple split up (or get married) after years of dating, why should we assume that its the woman who has more to lose (or win)?

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Why Is Newly-Married Malala Yousafzai Facing Trolling & Extreme Opinions Instead of Good Wishes?

Sit your ass down critics...Malala Yousafzai took a bullet to her head instead of bowing down to pressures far more serious. If she decided to marry, I’m pretty sure she knows what she’s doing!

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16 Invaluable Safety Tips For The Solo Woman Traveler In India That Could Save Your Life

Travel for leisure will slowly come back as the pandemic recedes, and travelling solo as a woman is great fun, if you know how to do it right.

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5 Steps I Took To Stop My Own Discriminatory Behaviour!

This is a HARD blog post to write. For someone who was so unforgiving of others for their discriminatory behaviour, I‘d been casually discriminatory myself!

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Tales From A Marriage: When Is It Time To Say – Enough Is Enough?!

As she dragged herself to the kitchen to make coffee for her husband, breakfast for him and their kids, and then pack their lunches and send them off to work and school respectively… she felt another spasm hit her hard.

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I Wonder Why Every Actress Wants To Be With Ranbir Kapoor. I’ve Also Loved ‘Bad Boys’ But Now I Find Them Boring!

For most women, it's a rite of passage, isn't it? At some stage in our lives, we have all said the following (say it with me loudly and clearly, ladies), "I LOVE BAD BOYS!"

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Bollywood Is Realising That Hounding Out Older Leading Ladies Is Bad Business

Unlike actresses in the 90s who were hounded out of Bollywood the second they inched closer to being 30…the same Bollywood is now ruled by women who are well into their 30s and 40s.

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Planning A Foreign Trip? Here Are 12 Easy Tips To Get A Successful Visa!

Having travelled a lot (40 countries & more), I am waiting to get inside an airplane! If you're planning a foreign trip, these 12 tips will help in getting a successful visa.

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What’s The Male Equivalent Of Slut And Why It Matters

Words matter, in the way we speak in gender terms. A man is ambitious. A woman is a bitch. A powerful man's voice is deep and dignified while a woman is shrill and hysterical.

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Simone Biles Pulling Out Of The Olympics – Sensible, Brave Choice Or Not?!

Simone Biles pulled out of the Olympics citing mental health issues, but everything has two sides to it. What could these be, in this case?

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7 Things To Never Say To A Person Who Has Lost A Loved One!

After I lost my parents, the things people said to me was like another tragedy. My tips on what NOT to say when someone has lost a loved one.

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Princess Di’s Niece Marries: Older Bride Priyanka Was ‘Aunty’ But Patriarchy Ok With Groom As Old As Dad?

Lady Kitty Spencer, Princess Diana's niece got married to a man 30 years older - and that reminded us of how a much older man is given a pass, unlike an older woman in a relationship who is brutally trolled.

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How Pa Ranjith Transformed A Boxing Saga From The 1970s Into A Modern Day Tour-de-force

Sarpatta Parambarai is an excellent example of how the director Pa Ranjith took an old story that gets us nostalgic while giving it a fresh treatment.

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Why Fahadh Faasil’s Malik Was Just Meh For Me

If you are going to make a gangster movie now – in 2021 - it has to be more than a biographical portrait of a gangster who does bad things in order to do good for his community.

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