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Letting My Kids Watch TV While I Relax Does NOT Make Me A Bad Mom!

Posted: October 8, 2019

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Being a mom is one of the hardest tasks that comes with its own share of gifts and tears. But some times, moms need their me-time too! A mom explains why.

A mom is supposed to be smart, wise, a know-it-all. She is supposed to have all the answers to the questions raised in front of her, and have solutions to all the problems. A mom can’t afford to have a hair out of place. Or lose her cool. She needs to behave like she has ten heads, twenty pairs of hands and the speed of Flash to go around sorting things.

Well, to be honest, I have always wanted children. To me, the idea of having a family meant having children. And when you are growing up, you read all these fairy tale books about happily ever after.

My happily ever after

I am not going to talk about finding the love of your life, getting married and all. But what I am talking about is what happens after that. You have children together, you raise wonderful young adults and continue to live the happily ever after.

So, I assumed kids were very important for this happily ever after. And I do not regret it one bit. My children are a big part of who I am today, and most moves I make in life are made keeping them in mind. Most, I say, not all. There is a part of me that needs to live for me. A part that wants to do stuff while making sure that I give myself that space.

I need my ‘me-time’

This space is vital for me and for them. For me, it is to clear my head. There is so much clutter, that this precious little me-time gives me a break helping me make fairly sane decisions. So that I do not jump to conclusions too often.

I make unbiased decisions and I am mostly in a good mood. If I am in a good mood, the kids are happy. Hence the mommy-needs-her-alone-time works marvellously for them as well.

How to make being a mom easier

So, while being a mom is not easy, it can be made easier. I have learnt in time that it is alright to be a little selfish. To do what I love. It is okay to make the kids watch some television so that I can read a book or catch up with an old friend on the phone. To make them play on their own so while I do something on my own.

While some may gasp wondering how I could let the kids watch TV while I concentrate on my life, there are a few who would understand this. Sometimes, it really is alright to not have to devote all your time to the kids.

I mean, don’t you think that the kids would also want some time on their own? Wouldn’t they appreciate some quality time doing something ‘non-productive’?

Being a mom is not about being perfect. It is about being able to let go.

To be normal.

And just to be.

Picture credits: Pexels

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