Check out 16 Return-To-Work Programs In India For Ambitious Women Like You!
Don't feed your daughters with wrong thoughts about life that a relationship has to be kept alive if she has lost her virginity.
I do not want to label myself as a feminist and write male-bashing stuff but still, I couldn’t help it this time. Recently, I read a post about “How important is virginity to women” and ” How important is for women to cover themselves at all times” and this really made me angry and upset at the same time. Honestly, being the mother of an eight-year-old girl, I find it absolutely absurd and ridiculous.
When a man loses his senses and has forced sex he doesn’t lose anything, but a woman loses her so-called “virginity”. I mean…. seriously??
Now do not come up with the same outdated stupid question you always ask my dear male chauvinist…
“A man can walk half naked, is it possible by a woman??
Oh!! Please come on!!! There should be a little sense, rather than being senseless. Dressing up glamorous is different from dressing up sexy and inviting. Why does a way of dressing label a woman as a bitch? Why does a late night party or late night work in her office stamp her as a slut? Why does a bikini of her choice on her vacation, talk about her family values? Why does a lady with a wine glass is filtered as an easy going and approachable women? Why does her friendliness with a colleague from the opposite gender make you judge her? Why does a woman doing all these things together become a topic of conversation at one point? And yeah… at times her parents are blamed for bringing up such kind of daughters in this universe!
A woman is a woman!!! It’s not always about cleavage and the butt that makes a man go for non-consensual sex or rape. It’s not always about the dress that makes a man go crazy enough to woo her. It’s not always getting drunk a reason for all the unhappiness in a woman’s life. Its all about how you judge a woman. Its all about your own discipline. Its all about your respect for the opposite gender and more importantly, fellow human beings.
When you crave for sex, even a wrapped up preserved mummy in the pyramids can become prey for you.
When a man can roam around with sleeves rolled up and collars erect with style after a successful break up with his girlfriend that involved consensual sex, why should a woman even bother about losing her virginity?
Consensual sex happens in every relationship where there is trust, but at times when certain things fail, you can’t hang on to a relationship just because you lost your “shitty virginity”.
Virginity is how you see others. Virginity is just a mirror of your reflection and your thoughts.
If just a way of dressing makes you assassinate a woman’s character, it just brutally proves your ugly thought processes.
Don’t scare your girls and tell them to cover themselves up properly or else men will rape u. Don’t feed wrong thoughts about life that a relationship should be kept alive just because she has had consensual sex with her partner and lost her virginity…
There is much more to life than that. Let them live, let them learn, let them face the challenges of life. Let them have a wrong relationship, let them experience some moment of failures. But don’t condition them with the thought that virginity is synonymous to their character or vice versa!!!
Image via Pixabay
Food blogger and a writer by passion. Writing has been my source of let out, ever since my college days. Am a woman with a strong belief that you can make difference in everyone's read more...
This post has published with none or minimal editorial intervention. Women's Web is an open platform that publishes a diversity of views, individual posts do not necessarily represent the platform's views and opinions at all times.
Stay updated with our Weekly Newsletter or Daily Summary - or both!
UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
Please enter your email address