Anupama writes a letter to her 18-years old daughter. Read what she has to say.
A beautiful friendship is something that we all hold dear. But do all friendships last forever? Sometimes yes, while at other times no. And when it is a NO, it becomes the saddest thing to let go of. To consider that what you once held so dear, may not have been true at all.
We both have come a long way from the time we first met. Today, I don’t know what you are up to in your life nor do you care to know what I am doing. You know what? Change is a funny thing. It makes you forget things you want to remember for life and sometimes feeds your brain with things that are harmful to your heart.
We met at some point of time in life. We made memories. There were times when we met daily, knew a lot about each other’s lives, bitched about other bitches (as per us), went on daily adventures and what not. You were part of my life. But now, you are not. Ask why? I’ll tell you.
You walked away, without final warning. I remember you saying stay in touch and trust me, I tried. Remember the messages I sent? You read those and never replied. Remember those calls I made? You did answer the call and asked who I was. I was just a chapter in your life. You read it, bookmarked it too but never returned to read it again. I missed you too, at some point in my life but I never tried to reach you then. I used to miss our daily chats, hysterical laughs, sharing lunch and everything about our friendship. But did you miss me? No. And then I didn’t too.
I would miss you so badly that I would cry in solitude. I would dial your number but never pressed the call button. I would open our conversations to send you a reminder that I miss you. I would stalk your profile to see what are you up to. Seeing you happy, not remembering me, made me both sad and mad at the same time. I wanted to shout at you for being so ignorant. But I didn’t.
So now, I have given up. It took me some time to get over our halcyon days but finally, I’ve realized that we were never friends. Yes, you read it right. A friend is not someone who waits for the other ‘friend’ to initiate. A friend is not someone who doesn’t know what’s going on in your life. Friendship is not about small-talk or big-talk. It’s about deep-talk. Friends know who you are inside out. Now, you are just some other person who I used to know sometime in my life. Gradually, we drifted apart and knew less of each other.
You don’t know about my struggles anymore. You don’t know my victories either. But why will you anyway? Though late, I have apprehended that you shouldn’t remain friends with people who never ask how you are and don’t know who you are. In simpler words, you don’t know how I am, and you never asked.
Don’t think I am saying all this out of angst or rage. I just wanted to let you know that I don’t care now. I don’t care how you are anymore. I should have done this long before but I wanted to save our friendship. It might sound unforgiving but what you have done is unforgivable. Today, I am letting you go just as you let go of me.
I still hope that you miss me someday, even for a minute. I hope you realize that you have lost a chance to make it better. I hope you realize it soon and I hope it hurts you the way it hurt me.
First published at author’s blog.
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