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Many of us are consumed by apprehensions of 'looking' older and hence start working to look good, with some extreme behaviour. But is it healthy?
Many of us, as we grow older are consumed by apprehensions of ‘looking’ older and hence start working to look good, with some extreme behaviour. But is it healthy?
In the wake of more and more people going in for surgical corrections, face-lifts, botox injections and many other out-of-the-way procedures to correct or defy their ageing looks, I have some questions for them to answer to no-one but themselves.
Many try to compete with the next generation in many ways…taking a cue or drawing inspiration from juniors is in positive attitude…but is the competition to prove, the attempt to stay looking like a teen or in 20’s with every passing age necessary?
What’s really needed is to accept ourselves for who we are and let the world be…while blending with the next generation is certainly essential, re-inventing the self to the extent of not defying what is natural is also a positive move which should be welcomed. But sometimes this gets to be excessive and in disregard of what we really need. We defy our own needs, of the body, of the spirit. We disregard our age, our stage, discredit our experiences. So what if they have been negative! These are lessons learnt and this is what has made us what we are today.
We need to go ahead and appreciate them and give the due respect that they deserve. Each one’s personal experiences and needs in life are different and this is what makes each one of us unique. The differences need to be honoured. The process of ageing does bring in a slowdown but we need to accept and respect the deceleration and putting efforts to buck up and stay fit would be good but do not punish or be hard upon yourself or subject yourself to self-imposed unreasonable, mulish standards of looks. For these only lead you to the doom of a different kind. Do not pursue gratification of the false pride or vanity, love yourself for whoever you are and whatever you are.
In this era of a rat-race, there is a profound calling for self-love and self-respect. Ring in those feelings of faith, gratitude to self rather than retribution of self. Every shine is bound to fade, call it natural progression or nature’s law. ACCEPT IT…Gracefully…Gratefully… and live life to keep moving on instead of constantly fighting to prove or stay in defiance of what is natural. Does beauty not lie in dignity? When will we ever realise that?
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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