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When I Wouldn’t Let Them Tame My Wild Side

A woman can have a wild side that is quintessentially her, and showing that side of hers does not make her a man. We need to question such stereotypes.

A woman can have a wild side that is quintessentially her, and showing that side of hers does not make her a man. We need to question such stereotypes.

I have a wild side; in fact, all women have a wild side. But this is about me, and I don’t want to give a generalised statement even though it is true.

Just like any other woman, I fell in love and left my name, house, culture, parents, siblings, city and country because I knew that I could adjust anywhere. Think of a man doing all these things on someone else’s terms and conditions. The first thought will be No! Or maybe very few. NO!

When I say that I tried to live on someone else’s terms and conditions, I mean that my wild side was then tried to be tamed. My wings were either tied in the name of daughter, daughter in law, wife, or they were hurt in the name of a mother. And all this happened unknowingly. They all were not even aware that they were trying to tame a tigress. What they, I didn’t know that I domesticated myself happily or sadly in the name of the varied roles I am performing.

I had a lot of arguments and fights with my self. Each time when the weak yet wild voice tried guiding me, I threw a fist full of dirt on it. Ignoring it was not easy and digging it out was much harder than I thought. You are questioned, compared, ridiculed, blamed and made to believe that you are wrong. When I started digging, I became a Man!

The ladies and gents in my life term me as a Man. Because I won’t let them tame my wild side. The big boys break their knuckles when they hear me and big girls disapprove of me. I am a woman, and I should apparently ‘possess a nature of a woman’. Well!

Do we women have a particular ‘character’ that shouts and says that we are women? I walk and talk in a certain manner that is ME, and that makes me a Man?! Is freedom of thought and speech the birthright of a man? Because I speak of equality and do not wish to let go some things, then I am strong headed, and that’s the nature of a man…Really?

I discovered my wild side, and I do not wish to let it go. I am a woman and want to take a journey beyond the gender I possess.

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