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The most dynamic social institution in India -- marriage, is going through a paradigm shift. A closer look at the changing trends with #WomenOnTheMove.
The most dynamic social institution in India — marriage, is going through a paradigm shift. A closer look at the changing trends with #WomenOnTheMove.
Marriage is an important social institution of Indian society and has long been endorsed as an important stage in one’s life. It has been accorded a lot of importance historically too.
Marriage has always been obligatory and unavoidable for an average Indian. Marriages in India enjoy a broad consensus and play a pivotal role as a means of procreation and carrying forward lineage. While the feelings of the couple in question were not completely unimportant (we only have to look at historical romances, even in the Indian context), marriage was mostly looked at as a social necessity that was more about community and family, and a legitimate and moral way to permit sexual relations and have children.
Of late it has been observed that the institution of marriage in India is undergoing a drastic change. This change is mainly due to economic prosperity and the internet revolution. The internet has exposed people to the different social trends prevalent across the world and has revolutionized the institution in an otherwise conservative Indian society.
Last week, we had our weekly #WomenOnTheMove chat over at Twitter, where we discussed how the script of marriage as an institution is changing in modern India and looked into some of the factors responsible for this change. This is what they said.
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@womensweb A1 wht ppl look for in a marriage has changed, it’sabout marrying for companionship,rather than society/security #WomenOnTheMove — Akshata (@Awestruck_Aks) January 25, 2017Never miss real stories from India's women.Register Now
@womensweb A1 wht ppl look for in a marriage has changed, it’sabout marrying for companionship,rather than society/security #WomenOnTheMove
— Akshata (@Awestruck_Aks) January 25, 2017
@womensweb Nope. Marriage to complete yourself isn’t very relevant. Perhaps to complement you 🙂 — Nandhitha Hariharan (@Nandhitha) January 25, 2017
@womensweb Nope. Marriage to complete yourself isn’t very relevant. Perhaps to complement you 🙂
— Nandhitha Hariharan (@Nandhitha) January 25, 2017
@editorsahiba @womensweb Marrying for love #WomenOnTheMove — Sakshi Dutt (@sakshi2487) January 25, 2017
@editorsahiba @womensweb Marrying for love #WomenOnTheMove
— Sakshi Dutt (@sakshi2487) January 25, 2017
@womensweb More of interstate marriages — kouser (@kouser2012) January 25, 2017
@womensweb More of interstate marriages
— kouser (@kouser2012) January 25, 2017
Yes. Most couples I know have married outside communities/castes. But not yet a general trend #womenonthemove https://t.co/ZEpsHwjYyJ — Aparna V Singh (@editorsahiba) January 25, 2017
Yes. Most couples I know have married outside communities/castes. But not yet a general trend #womenonthemove https://t.co/ZEpsHwjYyJ
— Aparna V Singh (@editorsahiba) January 25, 2017
@womensweb Spouses taking equal responsibility of managing work, home & children. Stereotypes r breaking #WomenOnTheMove — Sakshi Dutt (@sakshi2487) January 25, 2017
@womensweb Spouses taking equal responsibility of managing work, home & children. Stereotypes r breaking #WomenOnTheMove
@womensweb I think getting married is never a “must” it should be a choice and something that one wants to do! #WomenOnTheMove — Nupur Phatak (@imnoops) January 25, 2017
@womensweb I think getting married is never a “must” it should be a choice and something that one wants to do! #WomenOnTheMove
— Nupur Phatak (@imnoops) January 25, 2017
@womensweb A2 no,it is an option which I would exercise only when I am ready and find the right partner,#WomenOnTheMove — Akshata (@Awestruck_Aks) January 25, 2017
@womensweb A2 no,it is an option which I would exercise only when I am ready and find the right partner,#WomenOnTheMove
@womensweb A2 times are changing treating it as a “must”often ruins lives. Marry only when u find the right 1 & u are ready #WomenOnTheMove — Akshata (@Awestruck_Aks) January 25, 2017
@womensweb A2 times are changing treating it as a “must”often ruins lives. Marry only when u find the right 1 & u are ready #WomenOnTheMove
@womensweb a2 nope not a must.. But I wouldn’t mind when I find someone who fits the bill #womenonthemove — Aarti Krishnakumar (@talesfromaaroo) January 25, 2017
@womensweb a2 nope not a must.. But I wouldn’t mind when I find someone who fits the bill #womenonthemove
— Aarti Krishnakumar (@talesfromaaroo) January 25, 2017
@womensweb a1- yes I don’t see ppl rushing into marriage these days.. They take time. #womenonthemove — Aarti Krishnakumar (@talesfromaaroo) January 25, 2017
@womensweb a1- yes I don’t see ppl rushing into marriage these days.. They take time. #womenonthemove
@womensweb A2) I don’t think marriage is a necessity. Though after a point of time, you definitely need a companion. #WomenOnTheMove — Megha Shrimali (@WanderlustGirl_) January 25, 2017
@womensweb A2) I don’t think marriage is a necessity. Though after a point of time, you definitely need a companion. #WomenOnTheMove
— Megha Shrimali (@WanderlustGirl_) January 25, 2017
@womensweb love or arrange hardly matters as long as there is choice involved. — Nandhitha Hariharan (@Nandhitha) January 25, 2017
@womensweb love or arrange hardly matters as long as there is choice involved.
@womensweb Marriage, not a MUST. Hence the appropriate age for marriage is now reaching late twenties. #WomenOnTheMove — Nancy Sharma (@thethinkinhat) January 25, 2017
@womensweb Marriage, not a MUST. Hence the appropriate age for marriage is now reaching late twenties. #WomenOnTheMove
— Nancy Sharma (@thethinkinhat) January 25, 2017
@womensweb Females today enjoy the freedom to choose marriage as they are financially independent. #WomenOnTheMove — Nancy Sharma (@thethinkinhat) January 25, 2017
@womensweb Females today enjoy the freedom to choose marriage as they are financially independent. #WomenOnTheMove
@womensweb A2. No. Marriage is not the ultimate goal. Happiness is wat is important. So one can be happy alone also. #WomenOnTheMove — Sonalini Singh (@sonalini_singh) January 25, 2017
@womensweb A2. No. Marriage is not the ultimate goal. Happiness is wat is important. So one can be happy alone also. #WomenOnTheMove
— Sonalini Singh (@sonalini_singh) January 25, 2017
@womensweb @Awestruck_Aks @editorsahiba Pressure is always their, I faced it.14 years ago 26 was too late😜 but we can handle it better now. — EloquentArticulation (@indywrites) January 25, 2017
@womensweb @Awestruck_Aks @editorsahiba Pressure is always their, I faced it.14 years ago 26 was too late😜 but we can handle it better now.
— EloquentArticulation (@indywrites) January 25, 2017
@womensweb https://t.co/b6yQaFJrcm no it’s not. Being self sufficient is important and emotionally complete. — Gauri Sarin (@GauriSarin) January 25, 2017
@womensweb https://t.co/b6yQaFJrcm no it’s not. Being self sufficient is important and emotionally complete.
— Gauri Sarin (@GauriSarin) January 25, 2017
@womensweb A1) People are open to love marriage, also open to the idea of arranged-cum-love marriage. Love it! #WomenOnTheMove — Megha Shrimali (@WanderlustGirl_) January 25, 2017
@womensweb A1) People are open to love marriage, also open to the idea of arranged-cum-love marriage. Love it! #WomenOnTheMove
@womensweb a3- hold conversations, funny, clear thinking, enjoys travel, books & ofcourse similar thought process #womenonthemove — Aarti Krishnakumar (@talesfromaaroo) January 25, 2017
@womensweb a3- hold conversations, funny, clear thinking, enjoys travel, books & ofcourse similar thought process #womenonthemove
@womensweb Good character, good health karma, good financial karma.#WomenOnTheMove — Sonalini Singh (@sonalini_singh) January 25, 2017
@womensweb Good character, good health karma, good financial karma.#WomenOnTheMove
Compassion, humour & good manners, willingness to play second fiddle if needed. #WomenOnTheMove A smart guy but kind too. https://t.co/yu7fLMXdPn — EloquentArticulation (@indywrites) January 25, 2017
Compassion, humour & good manners, willingness to play second fiddle if needed. #WomenOnTheMove A smart guy but kind too. https://t.co/yu7fLMXdPn
@womensweb A3) Understanding, Ambitious, Loves to eat & travel, is humble & has to be my friend 🙂 #WomenOnTheMove — Megha Shrimali (@WanderlustGirl_) January 25, 2017
@womensweb A3) Understanding, Ambitious, Loves to eat & travel, is humble & has to be my friend 🙂 #WomenOnTheMove
@womensweb A3 trustworthy,open minded,good looking(why not 😉 ),live&letlive attitude,educated(not in the same order) #WomenOnTheMove — Nupur Phatak (@imnoops) January 25, 2017
@womensweb A3 trustworthy,open minded,good looking(why not 😉 ),live&letlive attitude,educated(not in the same order) #WomenOnTheMove
@womensweb A3 broad minded,a feminist, someone who is ready to stand by me and won’t hesitate to take a backseat if need arises — Akshata (@Awestruck_Aks) January 25, 2017
@womensweb A3 broad minded,a feminist, someone who is ready to stand by me and won’t hesitate to take a backseat if need arises
@womensweb A4) Slow, but changing. #WomenOnTheMove — Megha Shrimali (@WanderlustGirl_) January 25, 2017
@womensweb A4) Slow, but changing. #WomenOnTheMove
@womensweb A4. Yes it’s changing. Sad but very slow.. if a girl has to re-marry. Not in the case of boys.😣 #WomenOnTheMove — Sonalini Singh (@sonalini_singh) January 25, 2017
@womensweb A4. Yes it’s changing. Sad but very slow.. if a girl has to re-marry. Not in the case of boys.😣 #WomenOnTheMove
@womensweb A4 I think yes,remarriages are being welcomed,treated normally and accepted socially. 1/2 #WomenOnTheMove — Nupur Phatak (@imnoops) January 25, 2017
@womensweb A4 I think yes,remarriages are being welcomed,treated normally and accepted socially. 1/2 #WomenOnTheMove
@womensweb A4. Wish there were more changes, tbh. As of now, there’s still a lot of judgement, sadly #womenonthemove — Sreesha (@petrichorclouds) January 25, 2017
@womensweb A4. Wish there were more changes, tbh. As of now, there’s still a lot of judgement, sadly #womenonthemove
— Sreesha (@petrichorclouds) January 25, 2017
@womensweb A4 too slow, 2nd marriage specially if it’s a woman, is still looked at with suspicion. Divorce is a taboo. #WomenOnTheMove — Akshata (@Awestruck_Aks) January 25, 2017
@womensweb A4 too slow, 2nd marriage specially if it’s a woman, is still looked at with suspicion. Divorce is a taboo. #WomenOnTheMove
@womensweb second innings at happiness needs a paradigm shift on part of society. #WomenOnTheMove — Akshata (@Awestruck_Aks) January 25, 2017
@womensweb second innings at happiness needs a paradigm shift on part of society. #WomenOnTheMove
Attitude towards remarriage if changing is really slow. Men think they are doing women a favour #WomenOnTheMove https://t.co/Keqxz0EDJK — Jaibala Rao (@JaibalaRao) January 25, 2017
Attitude towards remarriage if changing is really slow. Men think they are doing women a favour #WomenOnTheMove https://t.co/Keqxz0EDJK
— Jaibala Rao (@JaibalaRao) January 25, 2017
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