I Am Not Ashamed Of My Blood Stained Clothes: Writes A Young Woman After People Ogled At Her

In a very powerful note, a young woman writes, why she is not ashamed of her menstruation. Power to you, girl!

In a very powerful note, a young woman writes, why she is not ashamed of her menstruation. Power to you, girl!

Menstruation has been mostly used to shame women or to call a woman impure. However, it is just another bodily function. Anushka Dasgupta, a young woman posted this on her facebook profile, questioning the very act of shaming a woman because she menstruates.

I came home today at four minutes past nine after a long walk, a metro journey and a 10-minute bus ride. 

There’s nothing unusual about my evening except for the fact that multiple women walked up to me on my way home and asked me to pull my tee shirt down, most men ogled, all the kids I met didn’t notice/care. I came to know why I was the centre of attention for the better of my journey when a woman (well-meaning, I’m sure) offered me a sanitary napkin. I had stained my pants. 

So here I was, well past eight, standing alone at Esplanade with a massive red stain across my butt and a rather artistic red dot under the zipper of my pants.

This post is for all the women who offered to help me hide my womanhood, I AM NOT ASHAMED. I bleed every 28-35 days, it is painful at times, I get moody at times, but I walk into the kitchen and get myself some chocolate biscuits and I’m good to go for the next eight hours come hell or high water because I AM NOT ASHAMED.

This post is for all the men who ogled at me today, I AM NOT ASHAMED. Check out the big red blotch on my pants all you want, check out my butt, check out the way I move, come touch me if you dare, and I will show you that I AM NOT ASHAMED. I will take out a sanitary napkin and show you how it works while you can teach me how to pee in public (because clearly you’re not ashamed, and neither am I).

To all the children who didn’t give a damn, DO NOT BE ASHAMED. There will be many bloodstains on pants, on skirts, on bedsheets, on cushion covers, on chairs, on tables, against the wall, and on the battlefield where YOU fight the stigma by NOT BEING ASHAMED. Do not whisper when you utter the word “PERIODS”, do not subtly offer a woman a sanitary napkin, or a fresh change of clothes. ASK her if she needs one, TELL her she has stained her clothes, DO NOT HELP HER HIDE IT.

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I AM NOT ON MY period.

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Paromita Bardoloi

Proud Indian. Senior Writer at Women's Web. Columnist. Book Reviewer. Street Theatre - Aatish. Dreamer. Workaholic. read more...

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