A story of love, loss and second chances by Nikita Singh, releasing this Valentine’s Day.
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Women deserve to be aware and well-informed about the various options available to them when it comes to menstruation, contraception and personal hygiene.
“Don’t sleep straight for too long, don’t turn on your side and forget to shift again, don’t sleep on your stomach, don’t sit for too long.”
In the hours during which most people let their bodies unwind and relax, a woman has to stay alert because periods are so unforgiving. So many rules to follow, and the absent-minded me. Despite it being 10 years since the first bloom of puberty, I am still far from getting used to this regime. Even as an adult, I manage to stain. I cringe or cry, whichever comes first.
When I look back at how this journey into womanhood began, I want to kick my 13-year-old self for not asking all the right questions; instead, I mechanically nodded my head while I took in instructions. Like they say, half-truths can be dangerous.
Sanitary pads, sanitary pads and more sanitary pads were shoved down our throats. By our family, by our teachers and all those strange people who would visit our school to talk to us about ‘the changes that our bodies would be going through’ while conveniently dodging half the relevant information. Now, I feel trapped, stuck with a gynaecologist who constantly says, “it’s normal, it’s normal” or suggests a hundred different tests and assumes I’m not sexually active since I’m unmarried.
Everyone just assumes. Like they assume we love sanitary pads. What else could we do when we were given limitations, instead of answers?
As a growing young woman, I felt I had every right to know about all kinds of available modes, medications and options in this aspect rather than a hurried 15-minutes speech before my wedding night.
It reminds me of a prominent part in George Orwell’s 1984 – Newspeak. ‘Introducing smaller, more concise words to tunnel the freedom to think beyond.’
I read about tampons in old copies of American teen-aimed magazines in a resident library. For the longest time, I didn’t know what they were; until a few months ago when I finally mustered up all the courage I could and decided to give it a try. I was often told they were more comfortable than sanitary pads. My mother’s first response to this was “No, they’re awful and uncomfortable.” “Really? Did you try it?” I asked. She said no. It did not surprise me in the slightest. It’s the idea of it that made her uncomfortable. When I eventually did try my very first tampon months ago, I was so relieved. No more rashes, no dampness and finally, I could sleep comfortably at night. ‘Why didn’t anyone tell me of this before?’ was my first thought. I could have easily saved years of discomfort and sleepless, stain-conscious nights.
Going back a bit, I was just shy of 21 when I sat across a male gynaecologist who refused to tell me anything about daily birth control pills. “No. If you must, then use condoms,” he half scolded me. I honestly had no intentions of using them. When a friend told me she uses daily contraception and that it helped regulate her flow and reduced cramps, it peaked my interest and I desired to know more. As a growing young woman, I felt I had every right to know about all kinds of available modes, medications and options in this aspect rather than a hurried 15-minutes speech before my wedding night.
I tried to talk to more doctors and friends with the prospect of gathering as much info as I could. I wasn’t surprised to find that a majority of my peers were as clueless as me, furthermore deeming the usage of contraception as unsafe. My peers also felt similarly about the utilization of anything other than sanitary napkins. To prove the degree of awareness, I conducted a short survey on social media asking 400 women of age 18 and above to participate.
As women, it is imperative for us to know of the devices available to us, so that we can find out what works for us and what doesn’t, without getting swayed
To start with, 84 per cent women use sanitary pads, 11 per cent use tampon and 5 per cent said to be using the menstrual cup. Getting down to how and how much they knew of tampons, 37 per cent of women said they’ve heard about it from their friends and an abysmal 2 per cent were informed by their gynaecologist. Even out of this, only 23 per cent of the women were well aware of how tampons worked. A similar figure was seen in regards to daily birth control pills, only 30 per cent women knew. And how they knew? A good 40 per cent said the Internet was their source. Only 24 per cent said they were told by a doctor. Other interesting answers were that their boyfriends or partners informed them of birth control or that they heard of tampons and birth control in movies.
Either way, it boils down to one thing. We aren’t told the whole truth. We rely on secondary sources like the Internet to understand our biological concerns, which is not always the safest bet. At some point, if my niece approaches me with concerns, I would take it as my duty to tell her what she needs to know. For this, I need to be open-minded to at least, listen to her so that she can trust me and talk to me without hesitation. Aside from this, knowing the details first-hand from a doctor should be the best available primary source.
As women, it is imperative for us to know of the devices available to us, so that we can find out what works for us and what doesn’t, without getting swayed. Even if we are uncertain, honest and unaltered guidance should be available. The door for approachability has to be open for all, unbiased and regardless. Knowing too much, especially in a case like this, is definitely a boon.
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A rebellious 20-something Indian girl living in the Middle East, documenting my experiences and
Is it Safe to use tampons at Night ..because I normally sleep for min 7 hrs
Hi Swati, I use super plus ones for my first two/three night. Just like sanitary pads, you must dispose them after 6 to 8 hours. Plus side, you can sleep however you like!
I’m glad I was a part of this survey! Very well written Mehreen.
Could not have been possible without you and the everyone else who participated! Thank you 🙂
Tampons are said to cause cancer in the long run. Be careful, ladies.
We definitely need to know more options out there. But we should carefully evaluate them all. Just because they are comfortable doesn’t mean they are good for us.
Condoms are better than pills. The more chemicals in your body, the more damage it causes.
Even sanitary pads can cause Toxic Shock Syndrome. Apparently daily contraceptions are as harmful as we imagine. However I do know that it has to be prescribed according to your body cycle. Either way, A doctor should tell us pros and con, that’s the point of the story. Since we don’t know much ourselves.
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