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It’s easier to blame victims for one simple reason – people get the feeling that they’re in control. The alternative is scary. If a woman is raped for no fault of her own…it means that bad things can happen to good people, and there’s nothing we can do about it. This is why, in my opinion, we see even women blame the victim. It gives them a false sense of security. It makes them feel that they are in control of what happens to them.
But it’s time to face realities. And we can dismantle the “men are provoked and lost control” bullshit with one simple question. Would these same men attack a woman who’s well protected by bodyguards? Or will they keep their hands to themselves? If it’s the latter, we lay bare the hypocrisy. Men do not attack well protected women because they’re afraid of consequences. If they truly “lost control” however, then such things as personal safety does not matter. After all, that is what “losing control” means.
But the little experiment above amply demonstrates that men don’t “lose control”. They choose to rape. And that is a huge shift in viewpoint.
Better question is, will they rape their mom or sister if she was dressed “indecently”? And what about the sick bastards who rape kids? Men who “lose control” are not real men.
So glad that you are saying this loud and clear! Yes – there is NO provocation for assaulting or raping a woman. No matter what she wears, where she is, or with whom.
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