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Srishtaa Aparna Pallavi

Aparna Pallavi's current callings are as a therapist, contemplative writer and researcher of indigenous and forest foods. Gender and patriarchy are among her favorite subjects in her contemplative writing. Formerly she has had a two decade long career as an environment journalist. She currently lives in Auroville, Pondicherry, writing and working on her own healing. Her writings can be accessed on her Facebook wall.

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When Men Expect Sex To Deal With Difficult Feelings, They Rape When Refused

Women are expected to provide sex as relief from the issues men face, inside, as well as outside of the relationship -- in their work places, with their families, with their friends.

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The Real, Ugly Reason For The Cultural Requirement Of A (Sometimes Much) Younger Wife

The roots of male pedophilia run deep in our culture, are sanctioned and normalized by it; a 'couple' needs to be an older man and a younger woman as wife.

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As A Cis-Het Older Woman, My Relationship Options Are Limited By A Surprising Reason

No matter what a woman's age, there is only one, and rather unsurprising reason why cis-het men may pick them as a partner. Intrigued? Read on.

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The Myth Of ‘Hardy’ Domestic Helpers & Labourers Who ‘Have Good Immunity’

This whole idea that the 'poor are healthy' is nothing but a privileged myth. It is a convenient excuse to keep them deprived and breaking their backs to suit our needs.

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When An Oppressor (Or Even A Controlling Parent) Says, I’ve Given You Too Much Freedom

As those oppressed realise their freedom, Savarna men feel a 'loss of control' over those they were used to controlling, and the anger they feel for this 'loss' comes out in further oppressive behaviour.

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As A College Student, I Was Groomed By An Insecure, Much Older Man-Child…

Why are women miles ahead of men in understanding feminist thought? Why do men find it more difficult to understand and respect boundaries than women?

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The Alternate, Truly Empowering End I Would Have Liked To Ratna & Ashwin’s Story

After the kiss, it remains upto Ratna to keep her feet on the ground, while Ashwin goes into easy rants about not caring for the world, because the world does not impact him as it does her...

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It’s An Old Trick: Men Call Women ‘Mysterious’ And Avoid Seeing Them As ‘Human’

Men do not want make the effort to understand women as just as human, because they want to go on enjoying the entitlement that they have enjoyed for centuries.

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Why Men Feel Threatened By Women Who Speak Up

Feeling shame is the mind's defence system against doing wrong, and this is damaged in boys as they grow up by a patriarchy that benefits from men being violent towards woman. 

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How Shantanu’s Attempt To Control Ganga As A Husband Began Mahabharata’s Cycle Of Devastation

In the patriarchal world  of Indian mythology, women are supposed to obey, to follow rules, to yield to male control. The story of Ganga is the outlier.

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Why I Feel That Concepts Of ‘Inner Feminine’ & ‘Inner Masculine’ Are A Ton Of Nonsense

Saying 'inner feminine' for gentler, intuitive qualities and 'inner masculine' for active, logical ones is stereotypical and counterproductive on the way to self-actualisation, feels the author. 

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Women’s Anger Is Real ‘Coz Men Who Feel Entitled To Women’s Bodies Are Everywhere

Women's anger is justified, living suppressed in a rape culture, and our oppressors still safe because we've not owned our anger yet.

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Everything Was Good Until I Was The Adoring Younger Wife; Then I Came To Know Of Reality

He had lived all his life on the basis of a charismatic exterior, relying on the fascination of people weaker than him to prop him up. That is what he had hoped in our relationship.

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This Man Fantasized Openly About Underage ‘Virgins’, So I HAD To Speak Up As A Survivor

If a sexist, privileged, entitled man openly fantasizes about underage women on a food group by comparing pink ginger lemon pickle to a 'blushing virgin after her first kiss', he needs to be called out.

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Why Men In A Rape Culture Feel Threatened If A Woman Draws Boundaries To Say NO

A woman who draws boundaries to say enough threatens rape culture, bringing out the aggression in men who feel their entitlement is being challenged.

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