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They say I'm very lucky, as my husband 'allows' me so much freedom. But is freedom really a gift meant to be given to me?
They say I’m very lucky, as my husband ‘allows’ me so much freedom. But is freedom really a gift meant to be given to me?
You ‘let me’ sleep in on weekends And ‘allow me’ to enjoy my breakfast in bed You ‘let me’ continue my job after marriage “I am ‘giving you’ all the freedom”, you said.
I’m the object of envy for my friends “You’re so lucky”, they say, But my inner struggle is known to only some And this pain is far from fun.
For who is he to give me my basic rights? Does gender disparity make this a household fight? This marriage is not just mine but ours to care So why is the sense of sacrifice only in my share?
Whether I have a career or I am a homemaker The kitchen is always my territory While even your burnt roti gets adulation, My hard work there is banality.
You said I could wear jeans when your parents are away And ‘allowed’ me to put on makeup too, “I am quite progressive”, you said with a smile But for my ‘freedom’ I have paid a heavy price.
I don’t like to cook Or the daily Puja that we do For I am not that religious, But respect and honour I believe in too.
The fasts of Karwa chauth are just some of my struggles The red of the sindoor or the clanking of the bangles Only add to my mental troubles If this is a tradition for love and long life, Why isn’t the husband fasting, shoulder to shoulder, with his wife?
The years will go bye And I’ll slowly get transformed, Not into what I wanted to be But into something you’ve carefully moulded me.
So where is your freedom? Was it even there? For I’ve heavily paid for these liberties, And for me, life definitely wasn’t fair.
Written for every married woman who has led a life full of sacrifice for the family, and who has been given the secondary position in the marriage – as she’s a woman.
First published here.
Top image is a scene from the Hindi movie Lunchbox
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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