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Aeons ago (so the legends and scriptures say) on a balmy, fragrant and sunlit spring day the much loved dark lord (Krishna) had played Holi with his consort Radha/Radhika and a bevy of pretty milkmaids (Gopikas)who were her close friends in Brijbhumi. The ambience must surely have been ecstatic, with the dark waters of the Yamuna cheerfully flowing nearby, and the lush green trees exploding into riot of colours…As is only too well known, it is to commemorate this spectacular occasion that Holi is observed even today. In fact it has been interpolated into our traditions and cultural ethos.
But look around you now. Much water has flowed down the river since the primeval, euphoric times. The motley of coloured powders with which those ‘celestial’ players played were culled nature’s bounty namely flowers fruits leaves and herbs. They have yielded place to toxic chemical liquids and paints in modern days.
By far, the most obnoxious aspect of the festival is its rowdy, free-for-all atmosphere and spirit. In our country and more specifically in the entire northern belt the catch line or keynote –whatever you call it–during the festival is “Bura na mano holi hai” (all is fair during Holi so don’t take it to heart).
Doesn’t this seem to imply :all sorts of unacceptable behavior, including bawdy humour, and lechery can have a free run on this particular occasion? Aren’t men managing a leeway for themselves? Let me tell you why: It is sort of mandatory to consume bhang (a cannabis laden drink) during Holi, and opiated men can’t be penalized for misconduct. During the festival which is considered a great leveler and harbinger of fraternal bonds, fine lines of social norms, and morality get blurred. Even the most tradition-bound, perpetually veiled (ghunghat wearers) womenfolk venture out freely and indulge in revelry and boisterous sprinkling of colours on any one they may bump into.
Naturally a few among the men would be tempted to touch and grope them (they are groggy right?) considering the fact that normally they don’t witness such huge number of females in their normal daily lives. It might sound tad embarrassing but thoroughly drenched, silhouetted feminine figures appear tantalizing.
So is it a case of “Make hay while the sun shines’’. What?
All in whether it is the males have a time of their lives or the Fair Sex who would otherwise flare up, don’t seem to mind for just a day the obscenities in and around Holi are here to stay.
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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