Love Letters From A 40y Old Me To Myself At 20 And 30

Self love means respecting your needs, setting boundaries, and prioritizing your well-being above anything else. It means celebrating the things you do right and forgiving yourself for the times you fall short.

Loving others isn’t always the essence of love; rather, it’s a journey that begins from within oneself. As February, the month of love, unfolds, here I am sharing the exquisite love letters I’ve penned to myself.

Letter 1

Dear Me,

Let me first tell you that you are beautiful in and out and doing great! I know the journey you’re embarking on is filled with excitement, uncertainty, and moments of self-doubt. However, there is one thing I want to teach you at the age of 20: the value of accepting self-love.

I am aware that at 20, you may feel worthless or disoriented. Maybe you questioned yourself as you got up, “Am I enough?” or “Am I worthy of my love?” You may find yourself constantly seeking validation from others, measuring your worth based on external factors. You may feel pressure to live up to society’s standards of beauty, success, and happiness. Perhaps you’re still discovering what love—specifically self-love—means to you.

But let me tell you something – true happiness comes from within. It comes from learning to love and accept yourself unconditionally. It means respecting your needs, setting boundaries, and prioritizing your well-being above anything else. It means celebrating the things you do right and forgiving yourself for the times you fall short.

Self-love is not always easy, especially in a world that constantly tells us we’re not enough. It is often said that you can’t truly love others until you love yourself. Similarly, remember that others can’t truly love you until you love yourself. I want you to know that you are worthy of love and respect for who you are. You don’t need to change to fit into someone else’s idea of perfection. Your uniqueness is your greatest strength, and it is what sets you apart from the rest.

Take the time to nurture yourself – mind, body, and soul. Practice self-care rituals that bring you joy and rejuvenate your spirit. Above all, remember to be kind to yourself.

As you journey through life, remember that self-love is not a destination but a beautiful journey. And I promise you, the more you cultivate love for yourself, the more love you will have to give to others.

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So, my dear self, I urge you to embrace self-love with open arms.

With love,


Letter 2

Dear 30-year-old Me,

This is me, writing this love letter to thank you for being you, to encourage you, and to compliment you on who you are. Thank you for the letter you wrote to embrace self-love. It worked!!

I want to thank you for your courage and resilience. I understand that life hasn’t been easy for you at thirty, but you’ve shown incredible strength in facing your insecurities. Instead of letting your inner critic hold you back, you’ve faced it head-on and learned to be kinder and gentler with yourself.

I appreciate your commitment to self-care. You’ve prioritized your well-being and made choices that nourish your body, mind, and spirit. Whether it’s taking time for meditation, indulging in your favorite hobbies, or simply resting when you need it, you’ve recognized the importance of nurturing yourself, and it’s made all the difference.

You’ve embraced your flaws and imperfections, recognizing that they are what make you beautiful. You’ve learned to be your own best friend, offering words of encouragement and support in moments of doubt. You’ve forgiven yourself for mistakes and embraced a mindset of self-compassion.

As I stand here at 40, I can’t help but feel a sense of awe at the incredible journey you’ve embarked upon. Your courage, resilience, and unwavering commitment to self-love have laid the foundation for the fulfilling and meaningful life I now lead.

So, thank you, dear 30-year-old me, for taking that first step toward embracing self-love. Your bravery has not gone unnoticed, and I am forever grateful for the person you were and the person you’ve helped me become.

With heartfelt thanks and admiration,

Your 40-Year-Old Self

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Richa Agrawal

A writer, a blogger, and a mother. I find immense joy in doing anything creative, be it writing, indulging in arts & crafts, or decorating my personal space. I am also captivated by the wonders read more...

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