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My husband is a feminist…. but don’t tell anyone because it’s a secret. In fact, it is such a secret that I think even he doesn’t know it!
He thinks that women can do everything that men can maybe even more and definitely much better.
There isn’t a thing the man doesn’t think I can’t do. It’s really flattering I guess…except for the fact that it’s a little annoying.
I end up having to handle everything along with all the housework and my professional commitments as well.
If there’s a form to be filled, he calls out for me.
If there’s a bill to be paid or reservations to be made; it’s my name on his lips.
If he gets lost in the tiny alcove we call a kitchen while looking for a glass for himself, guess who he calls out to?
And ever since he’s learned how to make tea for himself, he has started thinking he’s going to be shortlisted for some kind of gallantry award. I mean can you imagine; here is a man who holds a corporate job AND can make tea for himself! Surely that deserves some kind of recognition; after all, he’s not a woman who is born with multitasking skills!
And it’s not just for himself; guess who ends up having to book the tickets when he large-heartedly tells his cousins he will take care of everything.
His excuse for dumping everything on me is that it’s too difficult to handle. I make it look easy because I’m a superwoman. This by the way comes from the guy who handles business worth 20 crores.
And it’s not like I mind but I do draw the line at physical work. What, pray, is the point of marrying a man who is 6 feet 2 inches if I have to climb on a chair to take out suitcases from the loft?
But no the husband is sure… “if I can do it so can you. Just stand straight and stretch your arms”…never mind the 10-inch difference in height!
If something heavy needs to be lifted…” put your back in it and lift with your legs.”
We’ve reached the situation where I often tell him that men can achieve a lot of things too…if I can cook a meal in the kitchen…so can you.
After all a superwoman would only marry a superman, wouldn’t she?
And honestly, that’s the only secret identity I’m willing to put up with.
Asfiya Rahman, a management graduate, is a teacher by occupation and a writer by inclination. She has published many short stories in different publications and is the author of the sports drama trilogy Wild, Wild read more...
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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