Check out 16 Return-To-Work Programs In India For Ambitious Women Like You!
What would my mother write if she had money and a room of her own she would have written about all of this, without worrying...
Here’s an Ode to Virginia Woolf on Mother’s Day…
If my mother had had a room of her own
I imagine or fancy
That she would write about:
drying her long black hair,
lying down on her khatia in the aangan of her house.
Soaking in the sun,
feeling the warmth grow in her scalp,
millimetre by millimetre.
She would write about her nose pin which catches the eye of all that pass by this scene,
Just watching her –
enjoying the afternoon.
I imagine she would write about being the youngest child,
surrounded by pampering brothers.
I imagine she would even write science-fiction,
About a parallel universe where
she would be married off without her consent and sent off at 18 to a stranger’s house to be a slave.
Where she would live to cook and clean for 25-30 people everyday.
Where she would be –
Taught to keep her mouth shut,
suar ki bachi.
She would even watch her daughters be sent to the same fate,
and eventually die from a broken heart from being abandoned by her children in her old age.
Forgotten and discarded.
This parallel universe mother of mine would write all this I imagine.
If she had a room of her own.
Image source: a still from the film Secret Superstar
Stuti is a queer-affirmative psychotherapist based in Mumbai. read more...
Women's Web is an open platform that publishes a diversity of views, individual posts do not necessarily represent the platform's views and opinions at all times.
Stay updated with our Weekly Newsletter or Daily Summary - or both!
It is easy to give in to patriarchal expectations from a married woman and lose your self in a marriage, but the path to happiness is in keeping your independence.
Marriage is often described as the joining of two individuals’ bodies, minds, and souls. Upon getting married, you are expected to share everything with your partner, including time, money, and all other aspects of life. Your life should revolve around your spouse from beginning to end.
But is it necessary to spend every waking moment with the spouse? Are you not supposed to have a life apart from your spouse? And do these rules apply only to women or men as well?
Although both men and women may face this situation, women are generally expected to give up everything once they get married. Despite progress in several areas, expecting women to abandon their interests, passions, and friendships to align their lives with those of their spouses is still considered the norm.
The rising numbers of single women choosing this life shout out clear and loud that patriarchy and sexism will no longer break or chain us.
Another book on singlehood? It seems to be the season for books on the joys and freedom of being single. But Demystifying and Dignifying Singlehood: Life Journeys of Single Women Across the Globe by Uma Jain is different. The book does not glorify or glamourise the lives of single women in any way. These are real stories – with the good, the bad and the ugly, all there.
The book tells the stories of 15 single women across the world. A feeling of deep understanding and empathy fills you as you read the book and understand the challenges faced by the women who are single – by choice or chance. Some of the women chose to be single because they faced discrimination and even abuse as girl children. Some others had abusive marriages and sought divorce.
The tag line ‘Crafting pathways on rough terrains’ on the cover page is enough to tell you that this is a serious take on the issue of singlehood. If it focuses more on the rough than the smooth, that has been the reality for the 15 women.
Please enter your email address