Over the years, your support has made Women’s Web the leading resource for women in India. Now, it is our turn to ask, how can we make this even more useful for you? Please take our short 5 minute questionnaire – your feedback is important to us!
Virgin! The relevance of this word is a lot in our society. So much so that now there is a pill to fake blood to prove virginity for that 'first night.'
Virgin! The relevance of this word is a lot in our society. So much so that now there is a pill to fake blood to prove virginity for that ‘first night.’
Our society is obsessed with the concept of getting a virgin wife. To the point where families getting their future daughters-in-law to take the test of virginity is pretty common. For women, the pressure of being a virgin to get married is so high that they some times have to get a hymenoplasty (temporary regeneration of the hymen) done.
So, not particularly surprisingly, for the ones who cannot get a hymenoplasty done, there is some ‘fake blood’ that they can use. For the first night of the marriage, women can now use fake blood. Yes, you read that right.
In a tweet going viral on twitter, this user shared a picture of the product I-Virgin Blood for the first night being sold on the online retailer Amazon.
Wow. Didn't believe the RT, so had to check. This really exists. I can only say wow. Bloody WTF wow. pic.twitter.com/ce6oI7ODc1 — Anamika- Don't @ me- See pinned tweet. (@NameFieldmt) November 12, 2019
Wow. Didn't believe the RT, so had to check. This really exists. I can only say wow. Bloody WTF wow. pic.twitter.com/ce6oI7ODc1
— Anamika- Don't @ me- See pinned tweet. (@NameFieldmt) November 12, 2019
As the name suggests the product makes you look ‘virgin’ for the first night of the marriage. It produces fake blood giving your husband the assurance that he is the first person to break your hymen.
The myth that a ‘bleeding bride’ on her ‘suhag raat’ is a virgin, is not just disgusting but illogical too! A hymen is a thin membrane that partially covers the vaginal opening and when it breaks there is a little blood flow. Simply because it covers the vagina, many relate it to the assurance of virginity.
This entire concept is flawed because the hymen can also break due to activities like horse riding, extensive exercise and using tampons. Hymen breaking doesn’t happen just because of sex.
Indian men are insecure when it comes to female sexuality. For the women are as good as their bodies. A young woman is desirable, a well-endowed woman is sexy.
But when it comes to matrimony, only a chaste woman will do, because it signifies that she has never been touched by another man. Our society’s obsession with virginity conveys how it assesses brides on the basis of their sexual experience or lack thereof, and not by their qualities.
The ‘virgin bride’ obsession is such that several women lie about their sexuality or use methods like hymenoplasty or fake blood! All of this is because a woman with a sexual life is considered to be impure. And thus, is a matter of embarrassment.
This entire concept is a representation of our patriarchal and misogynistic society. The obsession with a virgin bride shows a virgin vagina is considered as some uncharted land that men proclaim as their own. A vagina is considered a property, that men want to claim their rights upon.
Our society needs to understand that women’s virtues and qualities are not represented by their hymen.
Virgin or not, it is her choice and it should not be a reason to judge her qualities.
Picture credits: YouTube
I read, I write, I dream and search for the silver lining in my life. Being a student of mass communication with literature and political science I love writing about things that bother me. Follow read more...
Women's Web is an open platform that publishes a diversity of views, individual posts do not necessarily represent the platform's views and opinions at all times.
Stay updated with our Weekly Newsletter or Daily Summary - or both!
Be it a working or a homemaker mother, every parent needs a support system to be able to manage their children, housework, and mental health.
Let me at the outset clarify that when I mention ‘work’ here, it includes ANY work. So, it could be the work at home done by a homemaker parent or it could be work in a professional/entrepreneurial environment.
Either way, every parent struggles to find that fine balance between ‘work’ and ‘parenting’, especially with younger kids who still need high emotional and physical support from their caretakers. And not just any balance, but more importantly, balance that lets them keep their own sanity intact!
I watched a Tamil movie Kadaisi Vivasayi (The Last Farmer), recommended by my dad, on SonlyLiv, and many times over again since my first watch. If not for him, I’d have had no idea what I would have missed. What a piece of relevant and much needed art this movie is!
It is about an old farmer in a village (the only indigenous farmer left), who walks the path of trouble, quite unexpectedly, and tries to come out of it. I have tried my best to refrain from leaving spoilers, for I want the readers to certainly catch up on this masterpiece of director Manikandan (of Kakka Muttai fame).
The movie revolves around the farmer who goes about doing his everyday chores, sweeping his mud-house first thing in the morning, grazing the cows, etc and living a simple but contented life. He is happy doing his thing, until he invites trouble for himself out of the blue, primarily because he is illiterate and ignorant.