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Education is getting better, but our minds still remain illiterate; look at the number of highly educated young men looking for a sanskaari bride who will 'take care' of everything.
Education is getting better, but our minds still remain illiterate; look at the number of highly educated young men looking for a sanskaari bride who will ‘take care’ of everything.
This particular species has been growing consistently over the past few years. In recent times, it has progressed to such a phenomenal rate, that I worry it will outnumber the rest of the population. This is because they follow a simple rule of science, adapt well according to the prevailing environment and hence dominate other species.
What! Confused? Let me burst the bubble.
I am describing a specific category of people who have academic certificates to prove they are educated, but show clear traits of illiterate ones.
Well, here are certain characteristics of these people:
Sanskaari
Being chivalrous enough to pull a chair for a girl, but condemns her for her short dress.
(Afterall it’s against Indian culture; that’s the first lesson they are taught about)
Is this ‘food’?
Wanting a perfectly cooked meal including their favorite cuisine just at the right temperature and in the right proportions. If not, they don’t waste a single minute throwing verbal abuse as chastisement.
(That’s what the rule is- Women are supposed to cook the best possible way. After all, this is the least they can do in comparison to the extreme laborious day that their male counterparts have to encounter)
Only a superwoman will do
Want an ambitious life partner, but can’t endure her giving priorities to work instead of household chores.
(Now what’s wrong in that! Women should be pliable enough to juggle between these things, and needless to say, without complaints!)
Blame it on the mom
Offloading parental responsibilities completely on their female counterparts, and accusing them of any random issues observed with the child, be it poor score in exams or indecent behaviour.
(Nothing surprising! That’s what they have been witnessing over the period of countless generations. This is obviously not their fault!)
Superiority complex
Being a holler for minuscule issues, and oppressing the ones who are inferior to them based on casteism or financial status.
(Afterall this is the only thing they have been taught so far, to learn how to earn money. So, it is obvious those who don’t know it, would be of no match to them.)
Clearly, they know how to dominate and suppress others. Just like how parasites cling onto their hosts and suck the nutrition out of it, these people suck your confidence, break your integrity, make you feel tiny, disown you emotionally, leaving you with scarred souls.
Who said education teaches humility? That’s the symptom of weak and immature! Patience, affection, and honesty have become so outdated that they are no more a necessity for survival.
In India, education serves mainly two goals – employability and marriage. Nobody wants to get the basic essence of education which is
Learnings here are never centered on the inner self.
We are always educated about external problems around us and how to tackle them, but never asked to introspect and look at the core of the problem. One is never taught to balance the agility of the body with a tranquil mind. As a result, they are never in sync. Even with the mind, the logical section of the brain is often either asleep, or in resting mode, or probably underdeveloped.
Now, this is even worse. Humans are said to be smartest and most developed species. One of the main reasons is because of their extremely high brain capacities, and here we are at the juncture of a period where with a consensus, we have stopped utilizing it to its full potential.
The need of the hour is to look at the world through your own lenses but not what others are trying to show you. Let knowledge roam your thoughts and imaginations drift, let it remove biased glasses and look at all with equality. Let empathy prevail in you and be truly human to others. Learn to accept the errors in the process, while still craving for perfection, learn to be a little wiser and rise above the petty things.
Image source: a still from the film Hum Saath Saath Hain
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Neena was the sole caregiver of Amma and though one would think that Amma was dependent on her, Neena felt otherwise.
Neena inhaled the aroma that emanated from the pan and took a deep breath. The aroma of cumin interspersed with butter transported her back to the modest kitchen in her native village. She could picture her father standing in the kitchen wearing his white crisp kurta as he made delectable concoctions for his only daughter.
Neena grew up in a home where both her parents worked together in tandem to keep the house up and running. She had a blissful childhood in her modest two-room house. The house was small but every nook and cranny gave her memories of a lifetime. Neena’s young heart imagined that her life would follow the same cheerful course. But how wrong she was!
When she was sixteen, the catastrophic clutches of destiny snatched away her parents. They passed away in a road accident and Neena was devastated. Relatives thronged her now gloomy house and soon it was decided that she should be married off.
Women today don’t want to be in a partnership that complicates their lives further. They need an equal partner with whom they can figure out life as a team, playing by each other’s strengths.
We all are familiar with that one annoying aunty who is more interested in our marital status than in the dessert counter at a wedding. But these aunties have somehow become obsolete now. Now they are replaced by men we have in our lives. Friends, family, and even work colleagues. It’s the men who are worried about why we are not saying yes to one among their clans. What is wrong with us? Aren’t we scared of dying alone? Like them?
A recent interaction with a guy friend of mine turned sour when he lectured me about how I would regret not getting married at the right time. He lectured that every event in our lives needs to be completed within a certain timeframe set by society else we are doomed. I wasn’t angry. I was just disappointed to realize that annoying aunties are rapidly doubling in our society. And they don’t just appear at weddings or family functions anymore. They are everywhere. They are the real pandemic.
Let’s examine this a little closer.
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