Its not easy being under the watchful eye of the public who will not waste a single chance to shred your image into pieces.
Success is no guarantee for satisfaction, as I condemn, Bollywood says it all!
The limelight, the glitter, little bling, bold and killer attitudes, looks to die for and a glimpse which takes your breath away, such is the impression of the personalities in the spotlight.
Bollywood is no less than a dreamland. The actors and actresses as in the role of the shining stars set dreams on fire and rule hearts of the millions of people. They are watched, they are copied, mimicked, idealized, judged, hated and worshipped too.
I personally presume Bollywood as the most psychologically demanding career option. The celebrity status and success might be an oxymoronic situation everyone wants to keep intact forever and to do so, face a lot of Mental Turbulence.
Pertaining specifically in the culture which is constantly judged, biased, glorified and goes on the face value. It is quite a devastating fact that success is largely dependent on its functionality, glamour quotient, and novelty, glory is more fleeting than ever, and those who win the attention of the public worry incessantly about losing it.
Sometimes it comes as a price celebrities pay to create and maintain their Public Image because they just don’t get paid for being a movie star but the most significant part of their income depends upon their endurance to sustainability and it comes from the BRAND they become.
No matter how irresistibly juicy the Bollywood appears for one, a career in Bollywood doesn’t guarantee a sane life in the long run. Perhaps stress and depression are tied to genetic and environmental causes as well, but the nature of the work can worsen the distress.
The life of a Bollywood star is always at the display and with the advent of the complete Social Media Culture, a less durable one, everything becomes a piece of news or a meme joke. Even relationships, marriages and kids are not spared from the loose statements and snide remarks.
Albeit, they have put themselves in this position by making their life public but I insist they do exist as a human being with us, they have lives, they have kids and maybe other struggling situations at their personal end.
It is the other side of fame, spotlight and the cost of sustaining in the dreamland. Some are external factors, rabid fans, gold diggers, paparazzi, critics, peer-pressure and some crop within as self-doubt, addiction or in seeking solace.
The career of the stars is decided with a single movie at the box office, the critics, the public opinion and constant reviews and rating by each and every one.
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The moniker of SUPERSTAR was first used in Bollywood to define the crazy fan following Rajesh Khanna had, from girls marrying his photos, to leaving lipstick marks on his car, the actor saw fan frenzy like none other but someday the sun has to set and a new star has to rise and so was the case with him as Amitabh Bachchan started making his mark as the Angry Young Man in Bollywood and after a series of flops in an illustrative career of Rajesh Khanna, his downfall began. But he was not prepared for this and the sudden shift of focus from him to another star made him a recluse. He started drinking heavily and avoided people all the time, even after years after his frenzy had died down, he still could not accept the fact that his time was over. After years of loneliness and a drinking habit he couldn’t overcome, he passed away. He once created a sensation and had a huge number of crazy fans who worshipped him, later he could not handle the success and shut himself down.
Magnificently beautiful and flawless Parveen Babi was believed to suffer from a mental break down in her life wherein she shut herself from the public appearances and eventually died alone. It is believed that she was diagnosed with Schizophrenia. Parveen Babi’s case was extremely disheartening as she was one amongst the top actresses who had worked with every major movie star of the era. Her last movie was Iraada in the year 1990 and after that she completely withdrew from the public glare. Her mental condition got worse but sadly there was no one to take care of her. It is reported that she was so delusional that she believed that people were trying to kill her and she locked herself up without even going outside her house. She had a string of affairs with Mahesh Bhatt, Danny and Kabir Bedi. But it is believed that she was very serious about Mahesh Bhatt but unfortunately none of them could save her from mental illness and self-destruction. She died in her flat alone with no one by her side. Her body was found in a bloated and decomposed state after 4 days and the cause of death was starvation and multiple organ failure. No one could believe that Parveen Babi who could create a flutter in the hearts of men with her smile died a lonely death.
Actor Deepika Padukone broke the silence and stigma around depression by sharing her battle against this condition. A rough patch hit her life and she found it difficult to open up… but yet gained the courage to share her story as an attempt to break the stigma around mental health right after two of her films became blockbusters, Chennai Express, and Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani.
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There are numerous examples in Bollywood that break the stereotype and burst the bubble of a perfect life of a movie star. A life in Bollywood is not all the glitz and the glamour, there are many other factors that we as a common man need not go through and they as celebrities must stick to.
Its not easy being under the watchful eye of the public who will not waste a single chance to shred your image into pieces. We can argue that they choose this life. Yes indeed they do but somewhere even they are not able to anticipate the side effects of stardom as it is never discussed or showed to the public at large.
Conclusion: India is no wonder one of the most depressed countries in the world and over 1 lakh people on an average kill themselves in India every year and these are the only reported figures of depression and suicide.
Despite these statistics there continues to be absolutely an unneeded sense of embarrassment when it comes to talking about depression or mental health. It’s time to talk!
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This strange love story reminds me of Princess Diana when she gave an interview about Prince Charles - "There were three of us in this marriage!”
This love was flawed and broken the way only we humans know how to break things with our ego, pride, insecurity and complexities!
Where do I even begin to tell the story of how deep a love can be, how it transcends time, place and people. Perhaps this is a story about how women are their own worst enemies. Either way it is a story that tells us how frail, fragile and fraught we are as humans and how much we hurt each other.
This love story began when I was two years old. Growing up in India in a culture that wove love stories like Laila Majnu, Heer Ranjha and the epic symbol of love, the Taj Mahal, into the very fabric of our existence, love was always an integral part of our lives.
One such love story was of a boy and a girl who were neighbours. The boy, an athlete, artist and a poet, found his muse in this shy, thoughtful and in her own way poetic girl, who seemed to worship the very ground he walked on. Her face could be found in all the paintings he created, and her name in every poem he wrote. The girl called him Sagar, which means ocean, symbolizing his all-encompassing love for her.
Everything thing was going well; their wedding date was being finalized, till the boy’s older brother who was a doctor in the same little town, got accepted into Stanford Medical School to do his MS.
Earlier my husband would say, 'Arey! What is there in making dal-roti? It's so simple.' After he had to cook everyday when I was ill, he has stopped saying that to me!
“Arey! What is there to do in making dal roti? Put a handful of lentils in the cooker and let it whistle and make two rotis. After all, how long will it take?” A handful of dal (lentils) and two rotis! This is the story of every woman and no one seems to understand.
Some time ago, after a shopping spree, my husband and I entered the house, exhausted. I had just about kept all the bags aside, when my husband said, “I am very hungry, can you make something.”
I looked at my husband in amazement and thought, ‘He had just had food, how did he get hungry again so soon?’
My husband, as if he had read my face, said, “Arey! You know that my stomach is not filled with outside food. Just make dal roti. What is there to do in making dal roti? Put a handful of lentils in the cooker and let it whistle and make two rotis. After all, how long will it take?”
‘Is this the way dal (lentils) and roti are made?’ The thought came to my mind. ‘After all, I also went along and now I am tired too.’ I was also getting angry at myself that after all, I had spoiled the habit of everyone in the house.
In Bollywood, women come with a 'shelf-life' after which they are 'suited' only for certain roles. Why do we still have such ageist beliefs?
In Bollywood, women come with a ‘shelf-life’ after which they are ‘suited’ only for certain roles. Why do we still have such ageist beliefs?
In the patriarchal society where we sadly reside today, the discourse of growing older takes an uncomfortable turn when it comes to women. The anti-ageing cream ads that often comes on television show a fair young woman smiling through perfectly aligned teeth. She is recommending the anti-ageing cream to shed years off your age that has somewhat darker shades beneath it.
Why are we, as an educated society, trying to instil fear in women by repetitively making them conscious of their age and wrinkling skin? Isn’t it instigating the notion that aged women are less relevant and deserve less when it comes to professional and personal domains?
A woman is made to feel less worthy if she doesn’t conform to the beauty standards set by society. You need to be fair-skinned, slim, tall and, yes, have glowing skin above all.
Netflix's latest 'Fabulous Lives Of Bollywood Wives' is all about the lives of four best frenemies. Might just be an interesting watch!
Netflix’s latest ‘Fabulous Lives Of Bollywood Wives’ is all about the lives of four best frenemies. Might just be an interesting watch!
Original on the Women’s Web Hindi site. Translated by Madhur Dave.
Slated to release on the 27th of November, Netflix original series ‘Fabulous Lives Of Bollywood Wives’ recently dropped their trailer. The show aims to give you a glimpse into the glamorous and ‘fabulous’ lives these women lead.
This show will have ‘best friends’ Seema Khan, Maheep Kapoor, Bhavana Pandey and Neelam Kothari. Why is ‘best friends’ in quotes, you wonder? Well because we don’t know if they’re truly besties or just frenemies! Though the truth is that, whether it is the glamour industry or people in real life, finding true friends is pretty rare!