Happily Ever After?

Posted: February 12, 2019

“Own yourself with the angel and the devil within. Do not blame the proverbial other. Be strong and be true to yourself, for if you do not love yourself, no one else will.”

Nothing is forever! Including misery and love. Happiness is a fabulous wave which rises like a hot pink cloud. Happiness comes rushing in while eating ice cream or the ‘After Eight chocolate’. A close encounter of the third kind (pun intended) brings delirious joy. Sometimes we confuse this excitement with life. We think this kind of ‘high’ is everyday life. No my dearies, life is the continuous monotony of work, studying, home, of routine days in and out. But, at the end of the day if I eat chocolate and drink Baileys it’s been a sweet sweet day. I sleep with a grateful heart of a day well spent.

Soul mates (those men riding white horses) last for 5 minutes. They jump out of romantic notions and soon disappear. You will be left standing with the person who when even bored out of his wits with you, will hang on still, just because you seem a part of their lives. Do you really want that? Ask and be not afraid of the answer for what matters is YOU!

Marriage means nothing and everything. It’s a term. You find someone nice, hang around, it may work, may not work. You can try your best but certainly not at the cost of your own self respect and inherent absolute freedom to think for yourself. Try your best for the happiness of the whole family because none of us can be happy in isolation of ‘I, me, myself’ in the long run. But do not get led by them- fairy tales of happily ever after.

You are bound to fall out of love, love means nothing, whereas respect, affection and a sense of belonging is what gets you out or keeps one in a relationship.

Never ever think it’s rosy at the other end. The end you see from a distance is exactly like the point you are standing at. It’s your choices and reactions that will make it any different or else the beginning and the end remain the same every single time. The patterns repeat. So, choose well.

Men cheat, some very rare ones don’t. Why? I don’t know. If you find the one who is faithful, treat him nice.

Women are no angels, they screw up a whole lot themselves, so stop pretending to be the holy cows! Stop being the Mary with the lambs, if a vixen- claim it, own it! Yes own yourself with the angel and the devil within. Do not blame the proverbial other. Be strong and be true to yourself, for if you do not love yourself, no one else will.

What’s the point of this post? Nothing. Life is confusing, there are no bloody math equations that will set you right. It’s unpredictable as hell, swing along, and for surviving it you deserve a medal. Someone said this line and I found it tacky but it explains the journey just right.

Life is too short and it’s too long and there are no rights or wrongs, say all of it and sometimes not all, the point is eat ‘After Eights’ and enjoy the present moment. Look in the mirror and put your best foot forward!

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Bindiya is a full time working woman, wife, and mother who is passionate about living

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