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The author narrates an incident wherein her friend was judged for her attire. She wonders why women are judged at every step by the society at large.
A few days ago, my single woman friend (yes this is important to the story) was visiting the Provident Fund office to ask about her account. She was dressed casually. She had not worn accessories. She had just gone there for work.
The guy at the PF office laughed her off. He said that she should bring her husband to discuss these important issues. My friend commented that she was not married. The guy said she had to show bills. Then again he laughed. He gave her a look from head to toe. Then he said that usually women show shopping bills, but since my friend did not even know how to dress properly, and does not wear jewelry, she wont be having those bills. My friend was aghast in shock.
Small incidents matter. My friend went and bought herself some clothes. But why should we judge a woman by whether she is married or whether she is wearing any jewelry? A man can roam around in shorts or just jeans and t-shirt and he will never be asked whether he is married and no one is likely to comment on how he dresses. But, a woman will always be asked. This is the irony of our society.
Have you seen how during Puja , women in India wear traditional clothes. The society will rebuke the woman if she comes wearing a jeans and t-shirt to an Indian puja but never will they point fingers at a man. Just think about this small incident. It does not look so small does it?
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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