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Words like 'stoic, brave', have been used to describe Kalpana Tiwari, the wife of Vivek Tiwari who was shot at point blank distance by the police. But what about her battles going forward?
Words like ‘stoic, brave’, have been used to describe Kalpana Tiwari, the wife of Vivek Tiwari who was shot at point blank distance by the police. But what about her battles going forward?
I was rudely woken up from my early morning stupor when I saw the newspaper screaming at me from the front page “ UP cops gun down Apple exec,”! Beneath it was the picture of the “widely praised composed demeanour’ of his wife Kalpana Tiwari!
Words like ‘stoic, brave’ were liberally used to describe her immediate reaction to her husband’s death. How insensitive of people to pass such comments easily. Does anyone realize that she has absolutely no choice but to put up a stoic and brave front?
These qualities are thrust on people by the circumstances that has been forced upon them! The Yogi administration might have dismissed the constables involved in this act, and the law might take its own course and all would be forgotten within a few days by the media and the public. But the memories and the trauma faced by Kalpana Tiwari and her girls will be carried by them to their grave.
The sudden blow which she and her girls have to endure is most unfortunate, and no amount of money the state government has promised would suffice. Her trauma is unimaginable as she not only has to deal with her husband’s untimely death but also has to come to terms with the character assassination of her husband by the police.
Life is never fair to everyone. Her girls have to grow up without their father, whatever have they done to deserve such a fate? One definitely starts questioning the existence of God at such situations, and probably only by rationalizing it by saying that “God only tests his favourites”! We tend to accept His ruling and try to move on in life!
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Neena was the sole caregiver of Amma and though one would think that Amma was dependent on her, Neena felt otherwise.
Neena inhaled the aroma that emanated from the pan and took a deep breath. The aroma of cumin interspersed with butter transported her back to the modest kitchen in her native village. She could picture her father standing in the kitchen wearing his white crisp kurta as he made delectable concoctions for his only daughter.
Neena grew up in a home where both her parents worked together in tandem to keep the house up and running. She had a blissful childhood in her modest two-room house. The house was small but every nook and cranny gave her memories of a lifetime. Neena’s young heart imagined that her life would follow the same cheerful course. But how wrong she was!
When she was sixteen, the catastrophic clutches of destiny snatched away her parents. They passed away in a road accident and Neena was devastated. Relatives thronged her now gloomy house and soon it was decided that she should be married off.
Women today don’t want to be in a partnership that complicates their lives further. They need an equal partner with whom they can figure out life as a team, playing by each other’s strengths.
We all are familiar with that one annoying aunty who is more interested in our marital status than in the dessert counter at a wedding. But these aunties have somehow become obsolete now. Now they are replaced by men we have in our lives. Friends, family, and even work colleagues. It’s the men who are worried about why we are not saying yes to one among their clans. What is wrong with us? Aren’t we scared of dying alone? Like them?
A recent interaction with a guy friend of mine turned sour when he lectured me about how I would regret not getting married at the right time. He lectured that every event in our lives needs to be completed within a certain timeframe set by society else we are doomed. I wasn’t angry. I was just disappointed to realize that annoying aunties are rapidly doubling in our society. And they don’t just appear at weddings or family functions anymore. They are everywhere. They are the real pandemic.
Let’s examine this a little closer.
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