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Reached rock bottom? The silver lining is the only way is up but, I’ll admit, it is never easy! I learnt to deal with failure at a critical juncture of my life; I hope my journey helps you.
To stand again after a massive fall is equal parts exhausting and interesting. If I were to have written this article a few years ago, I’d probably never really have any answer to give you. I’d probably tell you to keep going, keep fighting, keep trying.
Back when I was naïve about what life really had in store for me, I was terrified of failure. I was terrified of all the unnecessary and impromptu twists and turns. By the time I understood one, I was pushed to face another. All in all, it was quite tough to deal with things. Imagine what so much of trauma can do to your self-confidence, self-esteem and self-worth. But I couldn’t accept it all and sit back. I never have and each challenge has been quite interesting, I’ll say. But, it wasn’t easy!
“Why should you then bother to get up when life is in control?”
Ever asked yourself this question? – I have, a few times. I received a reply too, because life doesn’t deliver anything you cannot handle and there is a lot of work that is still left to be done! The interesting factor here, is that life happens to you the way you want it. If you are experiencing something that feels like a set back or a defeat, its because you have something to learn from it, something to understand from it.
Let me share an incident with you which really taught me a lot about my life, about myself and I must add, about success and failure. This incident happened to me at the very peak of my career, when I was doing pretty well for myself, my business was taking off and I was extremely happy about my work. All of a sudden, I experienced a major setback because of two of my clients. They were unhappy with my work as they put it (quite rudely) that they felt that my approach was a bit unconventional in their perception or rather, they expected very conventional sessions even though they were feeling better and were improving. It was insulting and I was mortified.
How the hell did this happen?
Why the hell did this happen?
But today, as I write this post for you, I can very bravely say that I am so glad it did. It changed the course of my professional life as well as my financial life. These are a few pointers that helped me stand back up after I hit my rock bottom; I am hoping that they would help you too in some way.
I experience success and failure each day. Each day is a new challenge and each failure brings me a new opportunity to grow and learn. I hope this article gives you an outline to follow each time you experience a setback.
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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