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What is the worst that could happen at a 'bride seeing' meeting, all too common in India, when the prospective groom's family comes to see you for the first time? Let's find out!
What is the worst that could happen at a ‘bride seeing’ meeting, all too common in India, when the prospective groom’s family comes to see you for the first time? Let’s find out!
We are all fairly aware of the awkward as hell Indian custom of a boy’s family going ‘ladki dekhne’ for him. Sounds so similar to going shopping in a mall, to be honest. As much as the custom showcases how shamelessly nasty and nosy the groom’s side can often be, there are some hilarious instances that some women shared on Quora.
This family which rejected a gem of a girl under the guise of transparently ridiculous excuses.
“But to Kruti’s family’s relief, next day Nikhil’s dad called up, and to my utter surprise they said no, thankfully. But, sure enough they had a validated-and-accountable reason for this, “Kruti is lefty, we don’t want a lefty progeny.” Lefty or righty are distant thoughts, I wish those people some luck, next time at least get a little brainy, hearty and mannerful progeny.” – Purwa Rojinder
This poor guy who just wanted to marry his girlfriend and set up his business in peace.
“After a minute he told me that he is in a serious relationship with a girl for three years but his parents are not giving their consent as the girl’s caste is different. He told me to say no to his parents.” – Madhurima Dwivedi
This innocent delusional guy who doesn’t understand the sorcery of filters and the difference between pictures and real people.
“Me : hello
He: Hi
Me: how are you?
He: hey you look different
Me : how different
He : you look better in pictures
Me : what? Okay may be I am photogenic .
He: so what do you do?
Me : hey, I got to go I am a bit busy.” – Indraja Deshpande
This dude who is already smothering her with his opinions, WITHOUT even meeting once. Arranged marriages have a way of making guys feel entitled to anything. So shy, though, wow.
“The dude – “I don’t think your parents are aware of this. I also don’t think you should be studying so far away from home with so many strange guys and all. As for me, I don’t speak to girls much. Shy is coming talking to you. What about you?'” – Ranjana Mani
This girl is an inspiration. Couldn’t have shown the door to that smug, sexist idiot better.
“Guy: Girls are usually bad at maths, no problem. btw I am impressed that you gave partially correct answer to my question. Didn’t expected that from an arts major. Why did you took maths in undergrad? my cousin(now decided to teach this guy a lesson): We use a lot of maths in sociology. My PhD work was based on mathematical modelling. Its good that your favorite subject is maths. I have some doubts which I think you can clear. Guy(somewhat tensed) : You can ask me anything but right now we have some other important stuff to discuss.” – Ayushi Singhal
These ultra-sanskaari parents looking for an ultra-sanskaari bahu, oh dear god.
“Boy’s dad (BD): So child, do you watch tv shows?
Me: Yeah, I do.
BD: I mean, do you watch any “dharmik” (religious) tv shows?
Me (thinking if Vampire Diaries can be considered religious or not): Yes, I watch Mahabharata (the recent version which used to air on Star Plus)”
I could go on with this thread because the incidents are so prominent and everybody can understand exactly how all these instances would have panned out. Even though instances are funny, it is extremely weird to see such things still happening. I understand that parents care about their children and that there is nothing wrong with arranged marriage, however, it is time that we changed our ‘process’ to find the correct life partner. The filters put on the shopping website need to change and adapt according to the time.
And of course, more autonomy to the person who is supposed to get married is essential if parents want them to lead a happy life.
Top image is a screen grab from the movie Hum Aapke Hain Kaun
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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