Owning Your Sexuality…These Hot Songs Showed Women The Way To Be!

Songs through the decades have been a reflection of our society. These hot songs show pop divas owning their sexuality, and encouraging us to do likewise.

A song can really make or break your mood…yes, it has that power. The power of words and music put together can really impart a message in a manner no speech or dialogue can. Listening to music is actually therapeutic for the brain as it puts your brain through an emotional spa. And that is why just as some of these spas work and some don’t, some songs leave a lasting impact on us while some don’t even begin to scratch the surface.

Traditionally, women’s sexuality was seen as a source of pleasure for men rather than for themselves. No more!

Here is a list of some songs that are all for women’s sexual liberation and putting our own pleasure up front. (No wonder then, that most of these songs are sung by women themselves.) Here we go!

‘Like a Virgin’ by Madonna (1984)

A song much ahead of its time, the lyrics contained much hidden innuendo. The video was more symbolic of the sexual liberation of the woman with Madonna sailing in the canals of Venice in a gondola and shown in a palace wearing a white dress.

madonna in like a virgin

As is the case with most such numbers, it received mixed reactions although it was a chartbuster.

‘Gonna give you all my love, boy

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My fear is fading fast

Been saving it all for you

‘Cause only love can last’

‘If’ by Janet Jackson (1993)

Janet Jackson has donned many avatars from being the sweet girl next door to this confident and independent woman who knows her stuff. Her songs have been a reflection of her journey to stardom.

Her experiments with her dresses, the many piercings on her body, her gold tongue ring, her bold photo shoots, her bold lyrics, have all cemented her image as a pop icon comfortable in her own sexuality.

Janet Jackson in If

Her song ‘If’ talks about empowered female sexuality when it says:

‘How many night I’ve laid in bed excited over you

I’ve closed my eyes and thought of us a hundred different ways

I’ve gotten there so many times I wonder how bout you

Day and night

Night and day’

‘Rock the Boat’ by Aaliyah (2001)

A groovy song and a moving rhythm, this song is sure to catch your fancy. If you thought the music is the clincher here, wait till you hear the lyrics…you will find they are so straightforward for a song. But, that is what the women of the new millennium were feeling and Aaliyah caught this feeling bang on!

aaliyah Rock-the-Boat

It is a pity that we lost this talented singer soon after the release of this song in an ill-fated plane crash.

‘There is something I want you to do

I want you to use yourself

To explore by body until you reach the shore’

‘If you seek Amy’ by Britney Spears (2009)

Britney Spears became a pop diva at a very early age; her tank tops, torn jeans, naval piercing and gold body jewellery and ‘Oops I did it again’…everything about her became a rage.

britney spears seeking amy

This song talks about a person being so consumed by the other person that he is looking for her everywhere; something that can happen to anyone in real life put in this hit single:

‘Tell me have you seen her, cause I’m so

I can’t get her off my brain

I just wanna go, to the party she gon’ go

Can’t somebody take me home?’

‘Blow’ by Beyonce (2013)

Beyonce, the versatile singer that she is can actually pick up and sing a song of any genre. This one is not just sexy but titillating in its own way.

A clear winner, this one is for the woman who knows her desires.

beyonce in blow

‘When you are thirsty and need love

I give it up till I’m empty baby

Must be good to you’

With English songs being more ‘bold’ so to say, Bollywood music is also not far behind. Songs talking about female liberation like ‘Patakha Guddi’ from Highway and the ‘Kinare’ song from Queen to ‘Ang laga de’ from ‘Goliyon Ki Raslila Ram Leela’ which openly talks about a woman’s sexuality are making waves.

deepika in ang laga de

It is another matter that the debate over the ‘sabhyata’ of these songs becomes a favorite topic of discussion in a society that judges women over the pettiest of issues including songs. However, the good part is that women have learn to ignore the judgments and move on…High five to that!


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Ruchi Verma

Ruchi Verma Rajan is a woman on a mission of self-discovery. An avid reader since childhood, she grew up in the idyllic world of Enid Blyton and went on to devour the age old read more...

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