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Maybe we should check if we might be practicing one or more of these toxic behaviours, causing annoyance or even misery to those around us?
We mostly quickly acknowledge and react to negativity when we are on the receiving end. But we hardly ever notice how our toxic behavior might be killing someone’s peace of mind.
Given that people prefer to talk behind our backs rather than telling us upfront about what might be offending them, we may actually end up spending our entire lives ignorant of our own negativity.
According to JOHARI window, there is a side of our personalities that we ourselves don’t know. This fact may relieve you a bit but there are always ways to find out the secret self that we all possess.
So are you guilty of doing these following things? If your answer is yes then I must congratulate you, as you have taken the first step to improvement – which is acknowledgement.
This is the worst thing you can do to someone who has invested their time and money to get you something. Agreed, that sometimes gifts can be downright bad but you should always stick to the golden rule of not saying anything if you have nothing good to say. However, saying a ‘Thank You’ in spite of everything is the most courteous thing to do.
So you choose to turn a blind eye as long as everything is going great but the minute someone falls, you waste no time to judge, criticize or demean. Of course the person might have committed a grave blunder and bringing things to their notice might be unavoidable. However, that person is most likely to be open to your feedback if he has been praised as well. If you only bring out someone’s mistakes not only do you lose that person but you also lose the credibility of your own advice.
When people discuss their life with you, you invariably bring back the conversation to how much harder your life is and how much bigger your problems are as compared to theirs. In fact anything can trigger this I HAVE A HORRIBLE LIFE mood in you, even a simple courteous question like- “how are you?”
Honestly not everyone really wants to know how you are doing. You should in fact keep those conversations reserved for people who are close to you. And even then you should not make a routine of opening up your Pandora’s box of woes. Doing this will not only ensure that you have fewer people seeking your company but you will also have no one around when you would really need someone. Remember that old fable from your childhood, about the shepherd boy who kept talking about the wolf? Similarly, when you keep talking about your problems, no body will ever know when you actually need help.
So you want to lose weight but you put down every suggestion by explaining how difficult, impossible or un-doable it is. When you do this, people stop taking you and your problems seriously. Because they realize that you enjoy the misery and the helplessness. Nobody can make you walk a straight line, however simple it may be, if you want to go in circles.
When somebody shares something positive with you, you end up highlighting the darker side of things. So while people talk about how beautiful hill stations are you are the one who puts a wet blanket on everyone’s spirits by talking of the bitter cold. When the general mood is that of happiness and positivity one should refrain from dampening the enthusiasm. Sometimes being practical or honest only leaves a bitter taste in everyone’s mouth.
Nobody really owes anyone anything. But if you respond to someone’s good gesture with an ungrateful attitude, you are not only shunning future opportunities but you are also telling yourself a lie that there are no genuinely nice people.
Simply because you feel that no good will come to you if others fare well in their life. So when you hear a good news about someone’s achievements you generally react by wondering, “how does it affect me?”
Well not everything is about you all the time. If you forever expect people to keep doing things for you, you will forever be unhappy. It is not really difficult to be happy for someone without any motives. You may be surprised that it feels great to be happy for something that does not involve you.
So, if you have been doing any of these or a couple of these, then do not fret. As mentioned earlier acknowledgement is the first step to improvement. When you take the first step towards positivity, the universe responds by setting you up on a roller coaster ride!
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People Enthusiast/Writer/Trainer/Happy Soul
This is an excellent list of the negative behaviour patterns we can easily fall prey to!! Everyone should read this, introspect and work on stopping these patterns from becoming dangerous habits!!!
Awesome and so relatable.
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