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Here are 11 things to do when someone is struggling with a problem. Bringing up their past or making them feel guilty is certainly not one of them. Read on.
Here are 11 things (not) to do when someone is struggling with a problem. Bringing up their past or making them feel guilty is certainly not one of them. Read on.
When you share your joys they are supposed to double and when you share your problems, they are supposed to reduce. But, sometimes the problem you share can seem to be far worse than it did earlier, after you’ve shared it with someone. There are a lot of times you have been in situations, where you desperately want to be heard. You decide to either message a friend or pick up the phone to ‘talk’ or just chat on social networking sites/apps. The conversation ends up with you feeling utterly disappointed or even dismayed. You wish you had not let this person know what you were going through.
This could happen because you shared it with the wrong person. A ‘wrong’ person could be someone who could not hide his/her happiness as it made them feel good, deep down, about being better off than you or they could not bear to see your happy state otherwise. It may be someone who only wanted some free entertainment and something to gossip about later.
Sometimes, you may open up to someone who inadvertently says all the wrong things without meaning to make you feel worse off.
Sometimes, you may open up to someone who inadvertently says all the wrong things without meaning to make you feel worse off or simply isn’t aware of little things which could be avoided to make a huge difference.
If a friend, family member or someone you just met decides to confide in you, here are 11 simple things to remember which will help putting that smile back.
Only after your friend knows they have been fully heard, give them a hug (even a virtual one will do) and then offer solutions or options, leaving them alone to make a decision.
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