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A woman writes why you should enjoy your me time, when out in a new city on your own.
A woman writes on why you should enjoy your me time, when out in a new city on your own.
I love to rant, especially when I find myself in a new city. I stayed at home only till my 12th standard results were out, and have been moving around different places for study and work. And the escapades have never eluded me. While most new cities brought with them the company of roommates, boyfriend(s), husband; it is in Bangalore that I find myself truly single, again.
A new job brought me into the IT capital of India for the first time. Living out of a suitcase was not a new affair for me, in fact, I considered myself a veteran in this field. But initially, fear hounded me, as I left the comfort zone of my home after a gap of around 4 years. Would my child throw too many tantrums, and make life difficult for her father and grandparents? Did I still have it in me to survive alone in a totally new place? Would the risk I took, be worth it?
Nudging all these apprehensions aside, I tried to focus on the bigger picture (with help from my guardian angels, read friends and family). My takeaways:
So if an opportunity to travel alone to a new city presents itself, do not be scared; assess if the trip would be a value add in your life and career, then work on the logistics – make sure the family is taken care of, ensure you have a safe and comfortable place to live, work out your commute, keep emergency contacts of friends you can reach ready at your disposal, make a list of knowledge or skills you wish to acquire in this duration, and another of long lost friends you want to catch up with – and finally, let your hair down and enjoy this time!
Young woman traveler image via Shuterstock
I love literature, studied engineering, and work as a Statistical Programmer in the Pharma domain. I love talking, and writing is a means of sharing my observations about the mundane. My motto - Truth, however bitter ... read more...
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