A story of love, loss and second chances by Nikita Singh, releasing this Valentine’s Day.
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Life after cancer treatment is not always easy, but this breast cancer survivor has not stopped enjoying her life – one day at a time.
I am writing this today because I so want to connect with you all. I have been writing for some time now but am finally giving it a shape now. This is my first post so bear with me while I introduce myself.
I am a lecturer by profession (trust me, not a boring one..my kids love me!) and I quit my full time, well-paying job in 2012 when I was diagnosed with breast cancer. Before questions start to run through your mind whether it’s me or my spirit writing this, let me tell you I am perfectly fit and healthy now as I was blessed to have been diagnosed at an early stage.
I am 34 years young and am married to the most loving husband and have been blessed with the most adorable 5 year old son. My treatment got over in December 2012 and I am on hormonal medication now. Though I can be moody and fight with my husband and blame it on the meds, I am a very good wife. If I fight, I take the responsibility of saying that it’s my husband’s fault and not that of the medicine!
I am happy that I am finally able to give shape to my writing. In my busy schedule as part of which I manage my son, run my NGO (Yes to Life), take visiting classes now and then, go so frequently on trips that my son complained saying, ‘Why are we again taking a trip?’, try to study as I am pursuing a Ph.D., there are days in between when I don’t have much to do. And post cancer, I don’t feel like letting go of even a single day. I would like all my days to be super exciting and busy and today my writing is occupying my day, which is also making me feel so blessed.
…post cancer, I don’t feel like letting go of even a single day. I would like all my days to be super exciting and busy…
I am thankful for every experience of my life and have no complaints whatsoever. Cancer has taught me so much and I have chosen to absorb all the positives. I love every moment in my life now, every second spent with my son, every drop of rain, the wind blowing through my hair. I try to live in the now and stay stress-free most of the time. It is not just me but my family too which is eating healthier; I do aerobics, gym, meditation, dance and whatever else my heart desires.
I can say that I have found myself back. I do what I like to do; I have stopped taking on the pressures of life. Simply put, I am high on life and say ‘Yes to Life’ as it comes.
It also means taking oneself lightly as I believe that there is no need to over analyze life. I had a mastectomy which means one of my breasts was removed after my diagnosis. So, I wear an artificial silicon breast which is called a prosthesis. Soon after my treatment got over, I joined yoga classes. During one of the asanas, when I bent forward my breast (prosthesis) fell out of my inner garments, changing the anatomy of my body as it was resting now on my neck, beneath my top. So, just a few minutes back I had only one breast and now I felt like I had three.
Obviously I rushed to adjust it and got my body shape back. It was really funny and I laughed my heart out. It feels so librated to enjoy even things like these which may depress somebody else. I feel no less without a breast and in fact have started to feel sexier because I now know how strong and positive I am.
I feel no less without a breast and in fact have started to feel sexier because I now know how strong and positive I am.
Everybody has problems in life; these could be relationship oriented, health related, financial, but what makes or mars you are the choices you make. I chose to seek learning from this experience which gave me one of my bigger purposes in life of working towards the cause of helping others through my NGO.
I always asked God to bless me with two things during my treatment, strength and devotion and I am so thankful that he endowed me with both. I am in love with my life to the extent that I sometimes feel selfish but I am happy that I have started to live for myself on my terms.
I have started to write poetry also and am sharing with you my first poem that I wrote while I was undergoing my treatment.
I looked outside the window
I wondered how it happened to me
I looked for strength outside
My God said you have it within
I asked Him for devotion
I felt His blessings as deep as the ocean
I touched His lotus feet
My God hugged me and made me complete
I thank God every second of my life
For else I couldn’t have won this strife
I am no more scared of the future
As I have Him for my tutor.
Pic credit via Shutterstock
I am a management faculty by profession and left my full time job in June
It’s so encouraging to see a person take life as it comes in a happy state. I feel so alive and full of hope. May others feel it too.
I am so glad you feel motivated. I feel even more encouraged to keep writing and sharing my experience and thoughts. Stay blessed!
You are an inspiration. Loved your attitude.
Thanj you for sharing your experience. I am undergoing my treatment and sometimes feel helpless & hopeless. Reading your thoughts and attitude towards life truly inspires. Thank you. God bless!
Hi Aparna..I am so happy that you felt good after reading the post. It’s natural to feel low at times, I can truly understand. I guess thinking too much about the future worries us the most. Just take one step at a time..I really try living in the moment now and it works wonders for me. All the best with the treatment and God bless
Great going neeti….i totally empathize with you
Beautiful article Neeti! Really loved it. You are an inspiration to a lot of us!
So true Neeti
Hi Neeti! While reading your article I felt that I am reading my own story. I too underwent breast cancer treatment in 2012 when I was just 28 year old and a mother of 4 yr old daughter. I always wanted to pen down my positive experience out of this journey but somehow never got time for that due to my super hectic schedule.
But I want to second your thoughts here as I feel that I am a much stronger person now and I believe in myself more than ever! I try to follow a more healthy and active lifestyle now and I love my family and friends more than ever before. I cherish each and every moment spent with them.
So my message to all those who are going through some tough phase in their lives is that try to find positives out of your whole experience and trust me your struggle will be much more easier!!
Say Cheers to life!! 🙂
Absolutely true Tanu and this holds true for everyone. If we choose to learn from our experience rather than crib and complain, life will be much more beautiful and fun. God bless dear.
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