The 3 Words We In India Dread: It’s a Girl!

Posted: June 12, 2014

Until women live in a society where they are valued and respected, is it surprising they don’t want to give birth to girls either?

May you be blessed with a son.” The blessing I received most when I got married a year ago. People still believe that a son is more valuable than a daughter? I was shocked. And then as I did a bit of research, the big picture came in front of me.

5 million girls are aborted in India every year. That is more than the amount of girls being born in the United States per year. Just search the words ‘female foeticide’ in Wiki. The number of times the word India is mentioned on the page will embarrass you.

I want a son as we have a big business, I want what my husband has built from scratch to go to his own blood.” A lady says after having nine abortions. “Raising a female child is like watering your neighbor’s plant.” says another Indian woman. Apparently women agree to this act fearing that if they don’t bear a son, they will be replaced by a young, fertile (?) woman, who can bear a son. If people get their biology right, then there would be no need of this talk ever. Somehow the lack of education is a proving to be a catalyst for this issue.

The wonder machine, the ultrasound scanner that determines the sex of the baby is being used at random to kill girls. According to studies, the determination + termination of the female fetus come as a package in many hospitals for a meager 2000 rupees.

There is also a part of the country where women are worshipped and taken care of well. Women walk together with men and are given the same respect. But this is only a single pixel of the larger picture. The picture when seen in entirety is mind baffling and disturbing to say the least.

When we say “Save the girl child” whom are we addressing it to? There needs to be an assumption of responsibility before you put forth something, doesn’t it?

Look into the mirror, and look at yourself. Would you have been standing here if your mother had decided to kill you when you were the size of a peanut? How would you feel if the wife you love so much today had been strangled the minute she was born?

Treat the girls around you well. Be it your mother, your mother-in-law, your sister or your maid. Let them know that they are special. Let them know that they can make a difference. Let them know that they are not less than men in any regard. Make them feel good about themselves. Let them want to give birth to other females.

Let people not dread the three words any more.

It’s a Girl.

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  1. Earlier when my parents or grandparents were married all that used to matter was wether the girl is from a known good family. She was married with gold ornaments being gifted by the guy’s family and not the girl’s family[which is sadly the scenario these days in my community]. Dowry system was never so prevalent. The reason for such dis-respect to women in today’s society , I strongly feel has lots to do with materialistic lifestyle and money minded thinking of people.

    • Maybe you are right Roopashri. The current lifestyle is such that everyone wants money and they think only sons can provide for them. It really is a sad state to be in.

  2. I gave birth to three boys and in the beginning of each pregnancy we wished for a girl, but God chose to give us boys– no problem, we are just as delighted to have them. But its the society around us that bothers me a lot! I always hear words like “You should pray its a boy, theres no harm in praying for a boy” (is there no harm in asking what child I would prefer before suggesting such a thing?) and then the comments when they find out its a boy “Its a good thing its not a girl, boys are a blessing” — and what are girls?! I wish I had a girl!!! cant pray enough for it. Just those comments burn me up so bad. is it a curse if I had a girl? just sad.

    • People always do that. Every blessing I get is to have a boy child. It is sad that in 2014, people still worry about the sex of the child. People shall always talk, let them be. May God bless you with a girl child soon!

  3. I am intrigued by one statement in this article : “There is also a part of the country where women are worshipped and taken care of well. Women walk together with men and are given the same respect.”. May I know which part of India we are talking about? I understand it is not Uttar Pradesh where a supposedly educated CM treats the rape and hanging of minor girls from mango trees as routine matter. It is also not West Bengal where people celebrate Durga Puja with fervour and spread rumours about the character of a rape victim/single girl. Delhi, Maharashtra are also ruled out for similar reasons.

    Is there any part of India where women are not treated like chattel to be used as fancied by society!!!!!

    • I agree that it is a sad picture out there. But in a few parts of the east, women are taken care of really well. There women receive dowry while getting married and not the other way round. This was shown in ‘Satyamev Jayate’ too.

      Women are fancied everywhere, and only about 1% of them are treated right. Or much lesser.

  4. My paternal grandmother was dying for a girl. But she gave birth to four boys.
    Pity, thanks to female foeticide, polyandry households, trafficking, gangrapes etc. are taking place.

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