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Why is fashion and the choice of what we wear such a double-edged sword to women?
Before Anna Hazare and his team and the government and their team and all those in between took over the cyberspace and the news-space, there were stories of a certain Pakistani foreign minister that was doing the rounds. This headline stealer who has long since been pushed to the news sidelines is Pakistan’s youngest and first female Foreign Affairs Minister, Hina Rabbani Khar. Now for those of you who missed these news stories as you were presumably engaged in other meaningful things, don’t worry. She wasn’t making the waves for sorting out India’s troubled relationship with Pakistan and opening up new lines of communication. No such thing. Or maybe she was, but not like we would get to know judging by the coverage of her visit.
All she was in the news for was her branded clothes and accessories that sent not only the fashionistas of our country into a tizzy, but pretty much everyone. The comments ranged from praising her for her impeccable sense of style to calling her a ‘weapon of mass distraction’ to those that lamented about a woman who came from a country in crisis flaunting her wealth. There were the fans who said she was the Asian response to the likes of Michelle Obama and Katherine Middleton. And there were those who urged her to follow in the steps of Indira Gandhi and her handlooms.
To cut a long story short, as Stephani Carvin, a London-based lecturer in international relations tweeted, ‘The Hina Rabbani Khar story confirms belief that women are great foreign ministers and the reporting on foreign politicians is terrible.’
No argument on that. I’m still trying to find a pertinent article that can tell me what exactly transpired from a foreign affairs perspective during Hina Rabbani Khar’s visit to India. But it’s hard to get beyond the blogs and articles that tell me that her country is in crisis, so she needs to donate her bags. And each time I read one of those, I’m reminded of our wealthy politicians, young and otherwise, not to mention our cricketers and actors who are lauded for flaunting their wealth. And it’s not like our country has a rank to be proud of on the Human Poverty Index either.
So why is what she wore such a big deal? Does an accessory, no matter how expensive or cheap, make a difference to her abilities? Or is an attractive young woman who pays attention to her wardrobe just eye-candy and nothing else?
This is not a new thing, this using of attire to judge a woman’s mental capabilities. More than thirty years after she quit acting, Tamil Nadu Chief Minister Jayalalithaa has been run down as being a ‘bimbo’ for her ‘skimpy attire’ during her career as an actress in the 1960s and 1970s. Ridiculous, yes! For you might not agree with her politics, but it’s hard to agree that her costume choices have anything to do with her intellect.
So why is fashion and the choice of what we wear such a double-edged sword to women?
In the Victorian era, appearance was a measure of good character. This meant squeezing yourselves into death-vice like corsets and sweating it out in layers and layers. In India, we were mostly swathed in various versions of the Sari. The underlying emphasis was on being pleasing to the eyes of men.
Slowly we moved onto the phase where we could first feebly and then strongly declare that ‘looking good need not be a priority.’ The era of gender equality in fashion arose. Women everywhere appropriated pants and made them a staple in their wardrobe. Fashion started to mean freedom of movement.
And then somewhere down the line we moved to ‘button up and hair up = smart.’ Enter the stereotypical dowdy librarian look that now also includes the female scientist look. A pigeonhole that is still very prevalent. Take the popular series ‘The Big Bang Theory’ for instance. The star geeks of the show are contrasted by the female lead ‘Penny’ who is blonde, technically challenged except for the time she thinks about making a shopping app for branded shoes and very social. On the other hand, we have neurobiologist Dr. Amy Farrah Fowler. A female version of the men on the show, Amy couldn’t dress in greater contrast to Penny to showcase her brains and her extreme lack of social skills. Both likeable characters guaranteed to give you laughs. But both make me wonder about the labels attached to what we wear.
How much attention are we allowed to pay to what we wear without being thought of as self-involved?
As a politician, should I wear a crisp cotton sari and a big bindi or a Salwar Kameez to be taken seriously?
Does colour co-ordination mean that my brain is not evolved enough to take high-level decisions?
What does what I wear have to do with the way my brain functions?
As blogger Naomi, asks in a post on the ‘Feminist Legal Theory’, “Is fashion an impediment to the feminist movement that turns us into lackeys and sexual objects for the gratification of a male-dominated world, or can we use fashion, for example, high heels to feel empowered as we finally stand eye-to eye with men? Do these shoes help us walk at the same height as most men, or do they hurt our feet and restrict our movement?”
When a man’s idea of power dressing or grunge outfits are accepted without a squeak, why is it that women have to think multiple times about the message our clothing is sending?
And so is it any wonder that we are often stuck staring at a wardrobe full of clothes with nothing to wear?
Shweta Ganesh Kumar is a writer, blogger and creator of the modern Indian parenting blog ‘The Times Of Amma’,and 'Inkspire' - the digital platform for aspiring Indian writers. She was awarded the prestigious UN Laadli read more...
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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