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Society often labels marriage as a part of a 'complete life'- for both men and women. However, are women made to give into this pressure at the cost of their own dreams and desires?
Society often labels marriage as a part of a ‘complete life’- for both men and women. However, are women made to give into this pressure at the cost of their own dreams and desires?
Is there anything that threatens you on daily basis? Yes, for me its Marriage. I have always felt that I am not as privileged as my brother. When I was 21 itself my dad asked me about marriage-which from then had been threatening me in someway or the other.
Everyone is different and channelise their problems differently. In my case, the word ‘marriage’ has become something that I’m the most afraid of. It hits me at a different level. I was so afraid that for few months I was conquered with thoughts regarding marriage and its consequences and how I would be devastated. There were nights of anxiety attacks, no proper sleep.
Whenever I would think of after life of marriage L get emotional and cry. Mentally, it has taken a toll on me. The subject has not left me even now albeit the intensity has reduced.
There’s always the stress to study and settle otherwise they would get me married. Stress on a daily basis may not show immediate effects on health but in long term it shows irreversible effects.
Why am I not as privileged as Men!? Despite all of this, I’m supposed to show up everyday and fight these unfair prejudices and settle. How much have I been pushed down in the race when compared to men if we were supposed to start at same point? There’s no free mind and heart to do whatever I want and can think.
Despite all of this chaos, I’m supposed to study and settle and if I won’t in any case the society(parents included)is failing its daughters. We are under constant pressure in many aspects and are supposed to live with it. Where is my freedom of thought and space?
Getting me married to a person I don’t like or at a time when I don’t want to is putting me under stress when I’m trying to shape my career. Anyway, girls have no career once they get married unless the bridegroom’s family is progressive and also allows her to work.
Evidently seen inequality in a family where dad is a group 1 officer. Maybe I should feel happy that I’m at least allowed to study for some point of time regardless of my success in career.
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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