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After a long time, I decided to watch a movie, which happened to be “Rocky Aur Rani Kii Prem Kahaani”. I hadn’t expected the movie to so badly directed, and beyond an hour, I couldn’t watch it.
But anyway, the topic of interest was the story of Jamini and Kanwal, who had a brief extra-marital affair. The reaction of Kanwal seeing Jamini seemed unrealistic, but the question that was gnawing my mind was, “Why are marriages in India so incompatible? Why did Kanwal find solace in Jamini?” While his wife had no interest in poetry, he shared his hobby with Jamini which brought them together.
Almost in the same manner, Kanwal didn’t share the passion of business with his wife. Both were lost in the turbulent sea of marriage, but one found solace in pursuing her passion and her children (whom she didn’t let come close to her husband), the other had no outlet. Maybe, both of them were good individuals who were incompatible.
While the youth today are deciding to try a bit longer to be sure if their marriage can ride over the tides of rough weather, they are often ridiculed by saying, “In our times….”, but the question that arises is whether the weddings that take place by just seeing the girl or talking for an hour or so are really worth it? Whether staying together just for society is really worth it? Whether one should marry for love or for society?
Of course, marriages after seeing each other for long also fail, but then, it being their decision, the couple is in a state to walk out; whereas, when you marry for society, you continue to live together for society; despite not wishing to.
The sufferers in any broken marriage are the children – whether the parents decide to stay together or vice-versa, and a decision to have children should at least be delayed till the couple is sure that they can live together for the rest of their lives. At least, children should not be given birth to for the sake of society, but because of love.
It’s high time that we stop doing things in life for the sake of society and be sure about what we wish for! Full-stop.
Neelam Saxena Chandra is an Engineering graduate from VNIT and has done her Post Graduation Diploma in IM&HRD and also in Finance. She has completed a summer course in Finance from London School of read more...
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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