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While we hear about so much of hue and cry about live-in relationships in our country, while traveling, I came across an article wherein Twinkle Khanna mentioned that her mother advised her to live-in at least for 2 years before marrying Akshay Kumar! I felt like saying “Same-pinch” to her, though of course, I can’t do that.
With the stories of broken marriages and the couple having to adjust just because they have married or have children, isn’t the concept better? Marriage is a legal document having a lot of social bondages and other strings attached, and isn’t it really better to see if the couple can really stay together? After all, knowing a person is a different thing than possibly staying together and sharing everything, including the bed!
Surprisingly, I too had similar views as Dimple Kapadia, and had advised my daughter the same. The views were echoed by my husband. Many of my relatives and friends would be flabbergasted to know that these were my views, and hence I rarely shared the thoughts with them, except for a few. The society that I live in is not that of “Bollywood” kinds and my views might be thought as being extremely disgusting. But that’s what I am, and conveyed them cleverly to the concerned person, i.e. my daughter.
Though the society I stay in is conservative about these issues, I wonder what makes them accept the fact that their son or daughter is not getting along with their spouse and their grand-children suffering? How can a child be happy in an environment of continuous dislike? Why, I have been seen certain husbands beating their wives for something they didn’t like. What lessons do they impart to their children?
I am sure that rather than a teary-eyed mother or a coming-home-for-negligible-time father, a marriage would be better when both the partners get along!
Of course, I am aware of the difficulties that one endures when one of the partners in a live-in relationships gets acutely emotionally attached, while the other doesn’t, but yet I maintain that a break-up before marriage certainly causes less hurt than one later.
Neelam Saxena Chandra is an Engineering graduate from VNIT and has done her Post Graduation Diploma in IM&HRD and also in Finance. She has completed a summer course in Finance from London School of read more...
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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