From Guilt to Grace: Embracing Self-Love to Beat Burnout and Stress

It is a regular workday, and I’m engrossed in work when the guests staying over casually ask me if I can make them some tea and do a few other tasks.

Now, I’m torn between wanting to be a gracious host and the reality that this detour will throw my whole schedule off balance. I’m sure many of you can relate to this dilemma.

What makes it more interesting is that when it is my husband’s turn to help, it’s typically expected that he’ll get to it when he’s free – usually after his official work hours.

But let’s not get bogged down in the tea-making saga and instead focus on the bigger issue: the unequal pressures that women face and the guilt that often tags along.

We’ve all been there, right? The pressure to be the perfect host, the ideal daughter or daughter-in-law, or the selfless mother can be overwhelming.

In the TV show “Friends”, there is an episode where Phoebe donates to a charity, hoping to feel good about herself, only to be hit with guilt when she sees Joey on TV as a result. It’s comical on the show, but it hits close to home because many of us carry around that same kind of guilt.

We often feel guilty when we prioritize ourselves. It’s almost as though we’re wired to believe that our role is to cater to everyone else’s needs while putting ourselves last.

In today’s world, women like us juggle multiple roles – the career woman, the family caretaker, and more. Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom or a career-driven woman, the lines between work and personal life can blur. It’s like being on a never-ending treadmill, trying to keep up with the demands of family, work, and social commitments.

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This constant juggling act can lead to stress and burnout, and let’s be real, stress isn’t exactly our best buddy. It takes a toll on our mental and physical health.

So, here’s the deal – it’s high time we let go of the notion that we must do it all, all the time.

You don’t have to stretch yourself thin in an attempt to be a superhero. Instead, take a step back and realize that you deserve moments of relaxation and self-care.

Embracing self-love means understanding that you deserve those moments of relaxation and self-care. It is not selfish; it is an act of Self-Preservation.

A content, relaxed woman is the heart of a harmonious and happy home. By taking care of yourself, you’ll radiate positivity and create a better environment for everyone.

You’re not alone in your feelings of burnout. But you have the power to shift the narrative and rewrite your story. I’ll admit it is not easy. I’m still on my journey, struggling with making a conscious effort in this direction.

Start by setting boundaries. It is okay to say no when necessary. Prioritize self-care like it’s a non-negotiable part of your day. When faced with challenging moments, take a deep breath, and remind yourself that you deserve those moments of calm and well-being. Watch as your life transforms into a happier, more balanced one.

So, here’s to a brighter, more energized you, surrounded by positivity, and living your best life!


About the Author

Sapna Jayaram

Always on the lookout for new things to learn, I am a voracious reader, globetrotter, ambitious cook and mom to two precious little men. While I'm not experimenting in the kitchen or resolving sibling read more...

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