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The song in all hearts: Koi Lauta de mere beete hue din.
Thanks to social media platforms we are currently in a world where all the ones whom we have faded memories of, whom we thought we would never meet or whose hands we left abruptly years back resurface in our lives. The past connections beckon us back.
In this hustle bustle of life, navigating way across many roles, juggling life and career, ambitions and responsibilities, a woman often forgets the many parts of her that once existed and defined her. Somewhere amidst the race of life, we all go into an existentialistic crisis. Philosophizing about the world and my existence in it, the metaphysical deliberations start flashing the parts of me that unconsciously faded into oblivion. When, how and why it happened, there is really no account. As we hit the midlife crisis the longing and yearning for these long lost parts of us to resurface become stronger.
These parts that once were Me had actually never left me. Somehow they got shielded in the race of life. As we pause, the layers we created thin out to reveal the real me. We retrace our evolutionary trajectory to the initial phases. My past comes live with each step backward.
The childhood exuberance, the school frolic and the college romp phase over and we struggle our way up the Maslow’s need hierarchy. Years go by in this pursuit. Finally when we pause to reflect, we realise we have crossed the initial 2 tiers of basic needs, safety and security. Our social needs in terms of love, care belongingness and intimate relations also have reached some level even if not in that order. Now money does not motivate us as much as it used to and craving for positions and ladder climbing haste has slowed down. The frivolity of the materialistic world starts hitting a bit. With age, my anticipation of failing memory suffers a jolt as I start remembering lot of events from the past. It then that we go back the nostalgic lane to seek all those people, events and places associated with the carefree being you were at a time.
Reminiscing past and not recalling friends, long lost family members, neighbours and colleagues is just impossible. Amongst the most beautiful chapters of the past are those which had family and friends written on them. There are maybe some other people who maybe during the initial phases of our lives may be exiting in the background yet they were there playing a trivial or significant part knowingly or unknowingly in my existence. As we trod this regressive phase, these edged out faces of the past start reappearing. Layer by layer the faint impressions assume proportions and are back in our lives. This time we are not letting them go. The next step obviously is to reunite with them. Then Magic happens. A lets meet once changes into when are we meeting next. Reason- The Aha! moments they offer are unparalleled.
Reunions are the best way to connect those dots of the past that craved to become lines that define a unique imagery for you. Mind you but it is not always easy to reunite with people from the past specially if the connections with them have been very faint or the associations have been long forgotten.
To re-meet people from past, rekindle the associations long forgotten or hazy may cause wavering moments ranging from intense determination to reconnect on one extremity of the continuum to contemplating – forget it not worth going back standpoints at the other extremity.
Why this reluctance? Psychologically speaking lot to do with your inner voice bombarding you with questions and dilemmas
These thoughts continually haunt. The discouragements are powerful and yet one must empowers them mostly to give it a try to go for a reunion. Why? Because Reunions have lot of cathartic effects
Most importantly they give glimpses back into how you were at one point of time. Something each of one of us always desire.
Do make it appoint to attend reunions because your absence will be felt. Not going will deprive your cohort of lovely memories and shrink the groups. Those long lost parts of you are somewhere pieced again. You yearn to go back to your real self. And that’s when the journey starts. A nostalgic journey but this time going backwards if going ahead and the path is decided by You and You Alone.
I am a post doctorate in social sciences, specializing in education and a professor at Somaiya Vidyavihar University. My areas of expertise are Research , Life skills and Management of Education. I am a voracious reader read more...
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