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When I turned 40 one thing I learnt is to choose the right battle to fight, it was just one simple realization!
Let me tell you a story, so you can relate to the title of my story better. Go back in your memory lane and think of the movie or a life situation where you saw a woman with young girl child\children lost a job or lost her spouse, you would have noticed that an immediate response that is shown: how will she manage the girl child\children?
When you replace the girl child with a boy child or children, you will see the response changed to, now these kids will only take care of her. That is how our story of abla naari started, and it has only evolved.
If you are reading this post thinking I am going to share all that you should or can do to change this perception, then you are wrong.
When I turned 40 one thing I learnt is to choose the right battle to fight! I am not going to go that way— the happenings of the past; the rest of my story is going to be about how we can transition from being an abla naari to an able naari. Here again no preaching or teaching from me!
If there is no preaching or teaching, what and why am I going to write here? It is just one simple realization!
I am only attempting to give life to all those thoughts which keep coming to our head, and we conveniently ignore! Assuming it is not right or not okay to think this way or that way, at times we might punish ourselves for even thinking something remotely bad.
The idea is to tell you all, that it is normal and our personal way of thinking is the right way to think, and it is also the valid way to act in that direction.
The list can go on, each of us can make our own list. What is important is not just making the list, but living the list.
It is time to shred the abla naari form and be the able naari we all are, and we want to be, now or never is real, so go ahead and do it now.
Dedicated to all the Naaris with loads of love.
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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