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Finding the will to forgive can always be a massive task. Yet, when we do so, what does it mean for the mind as well as the soul?
“Today is the perfect time for me to take my power back, because I love myself enough to let go of those old memories and heartfelt emotions that are eating me up from inside. I choose to be free and happier NOW.
At some point in life, all of us stumble upon and get trapped in a loop of unfulfilled expectations and disastrous experiences. We find ourselves locked in an emotional prison where forgiving the other person and moving on is the only possible solution.
Instead of soaring high and relishing every moment of our little lives, we are weighed down by the burden and pain of being destroyed. It’s easier to let go of this feeling and live free by forgetting and forgiving such people rather than hanging on petty things.
If you don’t let go of this feeling, the pain will continue to eat you from inside out and drown you in a pool of anger, resentment and bitterness for years.
The first thing to keep in mind is that we don’t forgive people because we are weak enough or just can’t fight back or blindly accept the fact that the initial hurt never happened. By forgiving, we are not setting the other person free for their benefit. Instead, we forgive for ourselves. We do it so that we can move beyond that pain and focus on other bigger goals.
The reality is that we can’t go back and change our past but we can surely change the way we are currently thinking. We become so overwhelmed by our situation that we hardly connect lovingly with ourselves and the people around us who have no role in our situation.
Forgiveness takes courage because beneath our story of pain and endurance, we always have the choice to leave things behind and move forward with a fresh start. Eventually, we will liberate our heart from the prison of resentment and will pave a new way of being and living that we might only dream of right now.
“When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health, and our happiness. One sure way to forgive and forget our enemies is to become absorbed in some cause infinitely bigger than ourselves. Then the insults and the enmities we encounter won’t matter because we will be oblivious of everything but our cause…” – (How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie)
Our enemies would dance with joy, their chests swelling with pride if only they knew how they were worrying us, slashing us and turning our own days and nights into a hellish turmoil.
Instead of sending bad vibes to the people who have hurt you in one way or another, send them tokens of love and peace. When you do this, you freed away your pain and anger so that you can now celebrate your own freedom with a grateful heart!
Forgiving helps us to keep our energy boosted…
When we embrace forgiveness, we are no more prisoners of our past.
Let not your bitter past hold you as a prisoner. Shun away the bitter thoughts and consider your painful experience as a catalyst to transform you and open you to new perspectives and insights.
So, Forget and Forgive!
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What happens when a woman decides to stand up for herself? Does this world easily accept the decisions of women in this society? What inspires them to be free of the clutches of the oppression that women have faced for ages? Most of the time, women do not get the chance to decide for themselves. Their lives are always at the mercy of someone, which can be their parents, siblings, husband, or children.
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14 years after her last feature film Dhobi Ghat, storyteller extraordinaire comes up with her new film, Laapataa Ladies, a must watch.
*Some spoilers alert*
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The premise of Laapataa Ladies is beautifully simple – two brides clad in the ghunghat that covers their identity get mixed up on a train. Within this Russian Doll, you get a comedy of errors, a story of getting lost, a commentary on patriarchy’s attitude towards women, a mystery, and a tale of finding oneself, all in one. Done with a mostly light touch that has you laughing and nodding along.
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