Don’t Let “Phubbing” Crumble Your Very Existence !

Posted: May 16, 2019

Technically the Word Phubbing has its origin dating back to the year 2012. It is a combination of two words “Phone” and “Snubbing”  and by way of definition it implies, “The Act of snubbing someone in a social setting by paying attention to the phone rather than the person”.

We are no strangers to this phenomenon and have been leading our lives, as the new normal with the of the advent of the smartphone.

Even though the polite purpose of technology and various social media apps was to connect more and more people across the globe, unfortunately, the motive got twisted and today that very technology and human interaction are at odds.

Let’s admit it, on many occasions we all have been through this state where we find ourselves ignored. In contrast, the personal interaction, closeness, attachment and quality of conversation has gradually declined between individuals.

This leads to an increased sense of fulfilment of oneself from online sources. Our lives have turned into an open book for everyone to read.

What Have we gained through all this??

Privacy gone! 

Emotions unattended.

One to one interaction nearly dead.

Relationships at loggerheads.

Here one can boast of the burgeoning numbers of digital friends on their diverse social media accounts. But have we questioned ourselves, is that of any relevance in our lives personally??

Are we seeking contentment with the numbers of likes, and comments on our posts???

Does the online validation is the measure of our ‘Self Worth’??

These trends have only resulted in increased mental tensions, emptiness in our hearts and mind and a life full of pretences. The sole purpose of technology which was designed to bring individuals together has isolated us from the very same people.

Have we become so insensitive to understand how continuous engagement with the mobile than with the person who is face to face is Utterly Disrespectful. It is actually a constant distraction from REAL LIFE INTERACTION.

There has been a significant decline in the satisfaction levels we used to gain from INTERPERSONAL Conversation. Despite gaining friends in mammoth percentages digitally, figures of DEPRESSION among individuals are going high. The quality time spent with our loved ones is in question.!

The etiquettes followed during ‘phubbing’ has engulfed THE VERY REASON OF EXISTENCE as a family, as an individual in various Social Roles.

We are sinfully disregarding our ‘One on One’ relationships within and outside the confinement of our homes to avoid difficult conversations and uncomfortable reactions. The heightened need for attention and to gain a sense of inclusion is resulting in actual physical pain in the brain. We are losing on being empathetic with the people around us. The very essence and key to mental health are being eroded.

In the process towards becoming more likeable online, our internal peace is crumbled. There is a deep vacuum within us. We pretend to appear the happiest person online but ironically we have turned low spirited and gloomy internally. In the visible and progressive trend to gain all the recognition, it’s been predicted that our interpersonal interaction will sooner or later, evanescent. In the hunger and greed to “Have It All” and to acquire the entirety, we have pushed ourselves to the brink of atrophy.

Let’s strive to be our real selves. Our brains have been wired in a particular way, let’s not intermingle in the process. Being a practitioner and a believer, I believe in the value of authentic and real-time communication with people around me that renders deep emotional connect and soothes the soul.

The sooner, the better, if we fathom the long term consequences of compromising on the emotional and mental health, on being addicted to technology. Whatever we feel inside is incongruent with how we act with others. We will not be committing a crime by being genuine, vulnerable and compassionate. The toughest part is to be a fake you! And even more difficult it would be to continue being that for a longer period. There will come a time when the mask will become a permanent fixture of your personality.

Take charge before it’s too late to go back. Enable a technology-free zone or at least minimal indulgence on the Internet around you when you are through on your work front.

It WILL reap benefits in the long run. 

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