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Men have to take the onus in calling out sexism among men, rather than trying to hush women up with the 'not all men' excuse.
Men have to take the onus in calling out sexism among men, rather than trying to hush women up with the ‘not all men’ excuse.
Remember that ‘maal’ your friend was talking about? And how that made you uncomfortable, yet you kept shut for fear of being ousted by your boy gang? Remember the time when your friend slapped a girl and you turned your face because it was their private matter?
Remember, when dad taunted mom for being ‘just a housewife’ without lifting a finger to help her and you did nothing? Remember, when that girl in the metro shouted at a man who was elbowing her and you looked away. Remember, the way your friend talked about that girl in a miniskirt, how she deserves to be treated?
Remember? Remember? Remember?
All the ways you kept silent when women around you got humiliated, dehumanized, objectified because what will other men think if you protest?
Instead, you silenced women even more. By asking them to wear ‘decent’ clothes, not to be out after dark, not to drink, laugh, make friends with other men. Because you know how ‘other men think.’
No, you might not be a direct perpetrator but you’re worse – a spineless bystander, who come to protest with their slogans of Not All Men. When women want their lives back.
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Kasturi’s debut novel, forthcoming in early 2021, had won the novel pitch competition by Half Baked Beans Publishers. She won the Runner Up Position in the Orange Flower Awards 2021 for Short Fiction. Her read more...
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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