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Chapa Kata, an interesting play, looks at dilemmas of the parent-child relationship anew, beyond the trope of dutiful love.
Chapa Kata (छापा काटा), an acclaimed Marathi play staged as part of the Vadodara International Art & Culture Festival, VADFEST 2015, held at Vadodara, Gujarat (23rd-26th January 2015) poignantly narrated the story of a turbulent yet heart-warming mother-daughter relationship.
What happens when parents are driven by fear about their children developing their own wings to fly, dreaming of an independent life, even as the prospect of leaving ‘old parents’ stares them in the face? Can parents always define what is in the best interest of their child or do they at times turn selfish?
At almost all points in life, we encounter dilemmas, choices that we may not like to make, but are forced to. Chapa Kata, which in Marathi means ‘heads or tails’ – two sides of a coin represents the difficult choice faced by a mother and a daughter, when the daughter tries to carve out her own existence and meaning for life.
Staged as part of VADFEST, a four day art and culture extravaganza supported by the Government of Gujarat and Gujarat Tourism, Chapa Kata resonated with a largely Maharashtrian audience in Vadodara. It unfolds the life of Uttara (Nina Kulkarni), an aged, widowed and lonely mother whose only support is her daughter Maitreyi (Mukta Barve). Uttara is a typical, middle-class, concerned mother who behaves weirdly at times. She is ever suspicious and intrusive into her daughter’s life. Lonely and scared, Uttara is also genuinely concerned for Maitreyi’s life – though for a purpose that serves her own interests.
Uttara is a typical, middle-class, concerned mother who behaves weirdly at times. She is ever suspicious and intrusive into her daughter’s life.
Uttara’s world stands shaken when she learns that Maitreyi has fallen in love with a man named Aseem (Ashish Kulkarni), a school teacher. He has come to Nashik to carry out his Ph.D work, during which he falls head over heels in love with Maitreyi. As soon as Uttara learns about this, she begins questioning Maitreyi’s intentions to desert her in old age and settle in a new city. The hurt she experiences at the prospect of Maitreyi getting married brings out the ‘selfish woman’ in her. She turns defiant, discourages Maitreyi from marrying and instils the fear of a probable unsuccessful relationship. Maitreyi who has already had bitter experiences in the past, then decides to part ways with Aseem.
What follows thereafter in the play is an exploration of the troubled relationship between the two. Interesting conversations are seen playing out between the mother-daughter as each tries to convince the ‘other’ about why ‘her’ decision is the best. What comes to fore is how ‘selfish’ human beings become, and how they may be left with no choice at all but to turn self-centered.
Maitreyi’s frustrations as a grown up woman wanting to pursue her dreams, unable to curb her desires is evident and understandable.
While Maitreyi tries convincing her mother to join her in another city post-marriage, Uttara refuses to bend. Maitreyi’s frustrations as a grown up woman wanting to pursue her dreams, unable to curb her desires is evident and understandable. The play weaves with its narrative several emotions such as parent’s expectations, ambition, desire, guilt, emotional pressures, sacrifice, bonding, identity and morality. It raises questions whose answers present difficult choices.
Do parents err in expecting their children to be by their side during the fag end of life? Is it alright for children to crush their dreams and clip their wings for the sake of parents? Life and relationships are not easy. They bring dilemmas and choices, often all of them ‘correct’ and all of them ‘wrong’ at the same time. How does one choose and how choices are made is what Chapa Kata tells us.
Chapa Kata is a bold attempt in many ways. Usually Indian society attaches moral dimensions to the parent-child relationship and popular culture tends to portray it in a dominantly positive way. This is a pious, sacred relationship which can never go wrong, which can never be questioned. The play goes against the stereotypical norm and portrays how contemporary relationships face troubled waters, even if it is between a mother and daughter, usually believed to be the best of friends. These are tough choices that the family structure faces today. Especially with single-child families and cases where there is a single parent, a conflict between ‘desire’ and ‘responsibility’ has emerged.
The play goes against the stereotypical norm and portrays how contemporary relationships face troubled waters, even if it is between a mother and daughter, usually believed to be the best of friends.
The current societal umbrella dominated by nuclear families is undergoing constant struggle over whether to lead a life as desired or to lead one dictated by societal norms. As tensions evolve between Uttara and Maitreyi, the viewer feels both are right in their own way. It is difficult for the mother to lead the rest of her life happily without the daughter, but then, it is also difficult for the daughter to abandon a life that awaits her.
Directed by Sameer Vidwans and written by Iravati Karnik, Chapa Kata firmly puts forth the question of rights and freedom. Is it not Uttara’s right to be cared for in her old age? Why should Maitreyi sacrifice her freedom to live in order to fulfill a responsibility that she may not be willing to take? The answer is actually none. By the time the play reaches to its climax, the viewer’s sympathies are not divided. They remain, rather, with both the mother and the daughter. The end though is a bit abrupt and predictable, deviating from a radical position that informs the play’s initial premise.
With every choice that comes in life, there are some that favour us, there are others that we have to accept. Only circumstances and time can soothe our decisions, our choices. Some may prove to be the best decisions of life, some may leave us with guilt and regret. As Maitreyi reaffirms towards the end, once she comes to terms with her desires and her mother’s expectations, “Life is all about becoming unknown to oneself, rediscovering oneself, with all the choices that one has.” Each choice, whether it is chapa (‘छापा’) or kata (‘काटा’) make life what it is ideally meant to be – a journey of twists and turns where one must expect the unexpected.
Originally published at author’s blog
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Nidhi Shendurnikar is an independent researcher based in Ahmedabad, Gujarat. She has a Ph.D
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